Jealousy

[kbyrd8455]

Is your spouse jealous of your love for photography. Im constantly getting nagged for being on that _____ site again or that I always have my camera in my hand.

[jj1987]

theres a term for those kind.............EX!

[rowdyred94]

No. What kind of person would be jealous of an artistic hobby?

[kbyrd8455]

And oh yeah it's funny because she brought me my XT for christmas.

[bolantej]

I find that my loved one wants me to have hobbies but to never enjoy them, so I know how you feel.

[poloman]

I do what I want.....She does what she wants. But we've been together a long time. She does think these lenses are a bit outrageous.

[august23]

I pretend like I don't notice my girlfriend is jealous of my hobby. She's constantly taking pictures with her A85 and trying to compete. :p I let her win most of the time. ;)

[ckphoto]

Luckily we both share this hobby. No worries about the other fainting at lens costs, etc... Although I am more likely to have the camera at all times, he's more into wildlife. I would like to teach my daughter, still have the 300D she could use to learn.

[liza]

My new boyfriend isn't jealous of the photography, but rather of the time I spend on this forum. :)

[Curtis N]

Just keep your priorities straight, nurture the relationships that are important to you and enjoy your hobbies after your family responsibilities are taken care of.

[John_B]

It works for us, I love nature/landscape photography and my wife loves going to parks. Combine both loves and it becomes a lovable unity! (I got lucky) :)

[Sean-Mcr]

My partner is very supportive, my camera is almost always with me.

Forums though are another matter. I'd not spend anytime on a forum that i could be spending with her. She's far more interesting then this or any other forum

[Anke]

When I picked up my camera bag last week, my wife said "you're not taking that thing out with us again are you!?" I don't think she meant to say it but it came out. To be honest, the day before I did make her stand by my bag and guard it whilst I spent ten minutes photographing a brick.
They put up with a lot don't they?

[bacchanal]

ahahaha, photographing a brick...I can see her expression now.

My wife is my contact manager and PR department, lol. I shoot bands (as a hobby), but I'm really bad at corresponding with people, and myspace just makes me want to kick my computer. I'm pretty sure she's glad that I have distracting hobbies actually. :rolleyes:

[rowdyred94]

I did make her stand by my bag and guard it whilst I spent ten minutes photographing a brick.
That had me LOL!

[elTwitcho]

Just keep your priorities straight, nurture the relationships that are important to you and enjoy your hobbies after your family responsibilities are taken care of.

Can't emphasize enough how much I agree with you.

[Mike R]

She complains, about the time I spend w/photography (our son has his comments also) BUT they do like the photos. I just don't talk about my new gear. They still do not know about the 17-50 f/2.8 Tamron and I use it around the house. When I get a "white" lens, I'll have some explaining to do.:lol:

[Honeybee]

He needed my undivided attention at all times but I was free to do what I wanted - if he decided to hang out with his friends or after he went to sleep. Riiiiiiight! He's now my EX.

[lhoney2]

Photography has been the best hobby I have ever picked up. I tend to be pretty obssesive about hobbies. Chess, video games, poker... all sedentary type solo activities.

Photography, on the other hand involves actually going OUT and doing things. I find I actually do more with the wife and kids because of photography, so it has been good for my relationships.

If I were you I would try to find ways to incorporate photography with your family life. It's not hard to do.

[cdifoto]

It's ok to put the camera down.

[Anke]

It's ok to put the camera down.

Only because you've run out of batteries!!

[spyraling]

I'm fortunate in the fact that the husband's just as obsessed with his own hobby, golf, so he understands my compulsion.

[JS4KIKZ]

This is kind of odd that I found this topic and had this conversation with a girl I'm talking to . I take pictures at the local clubs and she has a problem with me taking pictures of the girls who work there. Its not that she doesn't trust me, but according to her, she is jealous of the way they look and that I take pictures of the girls she would like to look like. Mind you, she is very beautiful to me and has a wonderful heart, also, a lot of the girls that work at these places dont even compare in my eyes. So, what to do?

[Bosscat]

I think any spouse should be happy that your playing with a camera, instead of a member of the opposite sex.

[bcap]

The only complaint I've heard from my girlfriend is the price of the lenses. When I told her that I dropped the equivalent of a used car on my 70-200 2.8L IS, she nearly shat herself.

When I was given the time to explain the "benefits" of the lens, she says "hey, well you're pissing with the big dogs now". I thought it was hilarious.

I get her to tell me (on many occassions) how sexy I look with my 30D and that nice white lens ;)

[Lord_Malone]

To be honest, the day before I did make her stand by my bag and guard it whilst I spent ten minutes photographing a brick.
They put up with a lot don't they?

Now THAT'S comedy.

[peber]

My GF is very understanding and does not complain (too much) when I bring my camera every time we go for a walk, go to a party or whatever... Since she is - somewhat - impressed by the result, that can be the reason... But she gave me a membership to a local photo club for christmas, that could have been a way for her to get me to spend more time with other hobbyists instead of bothering her...? ;) Nah, don't think so...

/Per

[ssim]

Just keep your priorities straight, nurture the relationships that are important to you and enjoy your hobbies after your family responsibilities are taken care of.

That is a profound statement and one that should be taken seriously. Is the original question really one of jealousy or because some spend too much time with their hobby to the point of neglecting others in your life or some of your share of the domestic duties. While I am single now that is a lesson I learned a long time ago.

[Radtech1]

When we travel, we have about 2 or 3 camera days and then we have a no-camera day. We usually do the things she most wants to do on the no-camera days and she has my full attention and presence. Because I don't want her to feel that it is a hardship, - even though she has never asked me to do this - I never comment about "what a great shot that would be" on the no-camera days.

Rad

[cbock]

my wife regularly refers to me as 'the paparazzi'

[kbyrd8455]

I am often called Peter Parker

[luvin]

;P Interesting topic guys..

Thanks for the insight... At least I'll be prepared for my future... ;)

Cheers

[futura]

Get them involved in the process - a wife / gf makes a good wind blocker. Got kids? even better no more flare problems :p

[rdricks]

My daughter (2 yrs old) does not even look up at me anymore - when I walk into the room she just keeps doing whatever she was doing, and says "Cheese".

Luckily my wife likes photography as well. It is a great excuse to get out of the house - when we want to get a way for a while we just find someplace to go take pictures.

-Ryan

[saturnin]

bottomline is that majority of women dont have hobbies adn when they see their partner doing somthing that does not involve them they get all "pissed, jelous, upset, etc". Ask her to find something to do so her time is occupied. Guys can find ton of **** to do at any time, i have the same issue with my woman. Whenever i ask her to do stuff shes never "commited". BUt when i go off and do my own ****, shes all whacky that i went off, like i'm supposed to feel bad that shes not doing somthing, its quite a wierd situation. This is kinda silly becasue im noticing this in many other relationships. Few of my friends have the same issues. Its like women are unmotivated or somthing. Its not only about photography but many other things. I only see this trend in relationships and not in single women. With singles its the other way around, they want to do everything.
Discuss

[Anke]

Get them involved in the process - a wife / gf makes a good wind blocker. Got kids? even better no more flare problems :p

I hope your wife/gf/kids don't read this forum, for your sake! :D

[fireman93514]

My wife is right beside me with her camera. She took more ribbons than I did at the county fair. I am proud of her!

[lhoney2]

As hobbies go, photography is one of the best you can have. Golf, fishing, gambling, etc. involve more time away from the wife, and are probably more expensive. Photography is fairly benign imo. If you love it, and your s/o wants you to stop doing it --- you are probably in a relationship that needs some help. Photography is probably the least of your problems.

[kram]

Yeah, one does get the occasional comments. But when I open up the snaps from our trips and show her some of her portraits, she's more than happy with the time I spend on the hobby. In fact, she;s started carrying the tripod for me by default :)

No complaints here !!

[bcap]

Yeah, my girlfriend is now my official "lens changer/holder". When I say "Dear, I need the zoom lens", she gets my 70-200 out of the case (that she's carrying), takes off the lid, takes the lens I am handing her and packages it up all nicely for me.

It works wonders. Getting them involved is a great thing. Having them chimp shots keeps them interested :)

[Anke]

I find that I usually stop to take a picture, look up from the viewfinder after and my wife is 100yds down the road, she's more interested in actually looking at wildlife than photographing it