I need your opinion please

[mitchella68]

I have been asked by a close long time family friend and her brothers to take some photographs of there fathers funeral. BUT they also have told me that the mom doesn't want photo's of it taken. They brought this discussion up with me by starting with " I want you to with your big lens to hide and get us pictures of......" and one of them also explained that her daughter who is away on a trip for the holiday and will want to see this because she was close to the deceased. What I do know is this is a highly decorated vet, a great friend and wanted to be laid to rest with brothers. What do you all think? I never though I would be sneaking around headstone to headstone like a poparotzi.

[deadpass]

two words: hell no.

I know there is varying opinion on here about photographing funerals but if the mom, the now widowed mom, doesn't want shots taken then I would respect that. This isn't one of those majority overrules thing. She just lost her husband, do you really want to stress her out more by taking pictures?

If you still feel that pictures must be taken.... just don't.

[Jonathan]

Just respect the widows wishes - simple as that.

[dave kadolph]

two words: hell no.... just don't.

Pardon the creative editing but--

+1

[LeesaB]

I have to agree...

but why does the mom not want it, does she not want her in the pictures, if so, you can always go early take a few pics and be done. If her wishes are strictly NO, then I would honor her wishes. Sometimes also, people feel as if other people might find it tacky, so I would try to find out the mothers ideas, and go from there. Many people do funerals at a time when the whole family is together.

We do funerals and generally we do them an hour before the service. then we do graveside, from a distance. It's respectful yet covers the event like they would like it to be covered.

Only one time were we asked to cover a funeral from beginning to end, and no one really seemed to mind.

[mitchella68]

Thanks for the responses! My opinion was the same and the family has point and shoots for this purpose. I wanted to make sure I wasn't missing something or being closed minded. I told them I didn't feel comfortable doing it without there moms consent and to work it out if they wanted when they asked.