Not sure if I should be thrilled or furious!

[Mum2J&M]

So the hubby springs it on me tonight that he's trying to book all of us (me, him and the kids) on a flight to London mid-March for three days. His parents are celebrating their 50th, which we've known for a year now. There was some talk of going last year, but that was soon changed as my husband expressed zero interest. Also, his parents are coming to the States to see us in April. So anyway, I get home tonight and he says he's been talking to our neighbor about going (he's a steward for AA). I do like the idea of us getting over there again, but - oh, forgot to mention - we are MOVING FEBRUARY 29TH! Ok - so should I be really excited, or really p#$$ed?! :shock: He says his dad called him at work today to tell him they're having a party for their anniversary and that he understands that we can't be there. Sounds kind of guilt-trippish to me to call someone just to tell them they know they can't come anyway? And my Father has given me the guilt-trip to come down to Florida for Easter. If mid-March and Easter conflict, I am really up the creek without a paddle! :rolleyes:

[SoaringUSAEagle]

Just see how it pans out. What will getting upset accomplish?

[the_incubus]

you should be happy.

[Mum2J&M]

you should be happy.

Oh, ok. Will you watch my kids for me on the flights? LOL.

[Jon]

Oh, ok. Will you watch my kids for me on the flights? LOL.If you pay the air fare . . .
:{)#

[HarleyQuinn]

It's a trip to London! I'd be doing the happy dance.

[LW Dail]

Hate to be a downer, but my parent's 50th was also their last. My father died nine months later.

If all I had to do was get to London to see him, there's nothing I wouldn't do to get there.

So you're moving? So something gets broken or forgotten? 50 years of marriage and a trip to London to celebrate with them?

Buy a new dress, have a ball, take some great pictures, and tell your husband to kiss them both. Twice.

Oh yeah, and slip a little Jack Daniels' in the baby bottles!

[the_incubus]

Hate to be a downer, but my parent's 50th was also their last. My father died nine months later.

If all I had to do was get to London to see him, there's nothing I wouldn't do to get there.

So you're moving? So something gets broken or forgotten? 50 years of marriage and a trip to London to celebrate with them?

Buy a new dress, have a ball, take some great pictures, and tell your husband to kiss them both. Twice.

Oh yeah, and slip a little Jack Daniels' in the baby bottles!


Yup, thats what my parents did with me and i turned out...uh, fine...i guess.



Disclaimer:

My parents did not feed me Jack Daniel's when i was a baby. :p

[Kevin]

I would tell him, if we are going to London it will be for more than three days!!

[HarleyQuinn]

Yup, thats what my parents did with me and i turned out...uh, fine...i guess.



:p

Sure... if you consider wearing a dress made of drapes "fine" then you're good to go! ;)

[Livinthalife]

I agree, i would go, and I DO know what it's like to bring kids on international flights. My daughter was awake the whole 14 hours flying to Japan! TOUGH, but hate to say it, a little sleepy medicine may help. DVD players, Game boy, whatever you can get your hands on.

[the_incubus]

Sure... if you consider wearing a dress made of drapes "fine" then you're good to go! ;)

what do you think im insane? i didnt wear a dress made out of drapes...they were sheets. ;):p

[HarleyQuinn]

what do you think im insane? i didnt wear a dress made out of drapes...they were sheets. ;):p
That's right! That was Scarlett O'Hara. :confused:

[S.Horton]

Go. Have fun. Life's short.

[matthew h]

Just do it - my fav long haul flight was London to Pheonix with my then 2 year old. He didn't sleep but we had great fun walking round (and round and round and round) and then sitting in the hostess part with them going mad over him, whilst giving me loads of drinks!

[Mum2J&M]

I think I'd be the one needing the JD, lol. We did this trip before when they were 2 and 1/2 and nearly 1. The baby slept the whole time. Now that they're nearly 5 and 3 and the baby gets chronic ear infections, I'm a little more nervous. At least it would be contained insanity I guess. I'm not sure if this is going to happen or not. Still seems that it will be quite a bit of money even after the help from our neighbor. We'll see. I'd rather go later in the year and go for like a week, but whatever. Hubby and I are not the best of friends as of late, so who knows what the future will bring. Just have to wait it out. If it had been up to me, we'd likely be living in London anyway.

[Karl C]

With all due respect...

It appears you get wrapped around the axle for stuff that's just not worth it. Can't make it to see your parents over Easter? "Sorry Mom and Dad, we have a chance to fly to London! Maybe we can visit you during the summer..."

Regarding moving on the 29th? So what? You should be done moving by mid-March.

I think you need to end allowing others making you feel guilty. It's your life - live it the way you want to. If your parents or anyone else doesn't like what you've decided, tough! It's not their place to lead your life for you.

[Belmondo]

With all due respect...

It appears you get wrapped around the axle for stuff that's just not worth it. Can't make it to see your parents over Easter? "Sorry Mom and Dad, we have a chance to fly to London! Maybe we can visit you during the summer..."

Regarding moving on the 29th? So what? You should be done moving by mid-March.

I think you need to end allowing others making you feel guilty. It's your life - live it the way you want to. If your parents or anyone else doesn't like what you've decided, tough! It's not their place to lead your life for you.Guys from Wisconsin are smart. (I was born in Wisconsin.)

Do what's best for your own family unit (you, husband, kids). Anyone who gets upset over your decisions is putting their priorities ahead of yours. Maybe they're right; maybe they're not. So what? You're the one that will have to live with the consequences.

BTW, my father passed away a few years ago. If he had lived 2 more months, he and my mother would have been married 70 years. She passed away a couple years later. If I had waited till they were gone to start living my own life, I would have been a newborn at the age of 63.

[Becca]

With all due respect...

It appears you get wrapped around the axle for stuff that's just not worth it. Can't make it to see your parents over Easter? "Sorry Mom and Dad, we have a chance to fly to London! Maybe we can visit you during the summer..."

Regarding moving on the 29th? So what? You should be done moving by mid-March.

I think you need to end allowing others making you feel guilty. It's your life - live it the way you want to. If your parents or anyone else doesn't like what you've decided, tough! It's not their place to lead your life for you.

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This is the best advice so far!

[steved110]

I would tell him, if we are going to London it will be for more than three days!!


I would not undertake a long haul flight with attendant jet lag anywhere, for a mere 3 days - you'll spend half that time getting over the time difference! Can't you come for longer? Make it more worth-while at least.

And London in March is vile - cold, wet, grey....urgh!

And the advice about doing what is best for your family is right. you can't please everyone all the time, so make sure to please the ones who matter most.

[Mum2J&M]

Trying to please everyone all the time is not possible. But my parents trained me to do this since I was born. So for some, ignoring them and just doing what they want to do might work. But it only lasts so long for me. It's like a bad habit that's very hard to get away from (just ask my husband how hard it is to say "no" to my father who has since dis-owned him). So I guess there's more to this story than I can expect anyone here to understand. Anyway, thanks for reading.

We also moved away from family so it wouldn't end our marriage.

[Mum2J&M]

I would not undertake a long haul flight with attendant jet lag anywhere, for a mere 3 days - you'll spend half that time getting over the time difference! Can't you come for longer? Make it more worth-while at least.

And London in March is vile - cold, wet, grey....urgh!

And the advice about doing what is best for your family is right. you can't please everyone all the time, so make sure to please the ones who matter most.


My husband tells me this is why he moved to the States.