How do you deal with this?

[Jonny]

Guys,

Last week a shot a simple wedding but became very frustrated by the lack of effort on the part of the B&G.
For example their young son was paige boy but spent the whole day in a poor state of dress, this image was just before he walked in the service.

I know this pic look alittle cute but others are a shambles and i feel guilty as the photog that my picture lack finesse because of this.

How do you deal with clients like this?

http://homepage.ntlworld.com/j.speed/Images/corey.jpg

[Pomona2006]

I don't know - kids will be kids - personally I find the picture incredibly cute! Especially the fact that the sleeves are too long for his arms :D

[Sakuraba39]

I think you put up the wrong picture to represent your frustration. Your pic is a really good pic, do you have other pics that were actually ruined due to the B&G and/or son?

[joayne]

Keep in mind that it was not Your wedding.. Your job was to capture the event, so that is what you did. You have very little control over how people act, you just do the best possible. ... And it tis a cute shot, little bugger. :)

[Jonny]

Keep in mind that it was not Your wedding.. Your job was to capture the event, so that is what you did. You have very little control over how people act, you just do the best possible. ... And it tis a cute shot, little bugger. :)

I hear you, that is what i told myself but i was getting frustrated as they seemed not to care.

Take for example this one where the kid look like a hunchback with one hand because of his massive suit the his parents didn't seem to care about.

http://homepage.ntlworld.com/j.speed/Images/corey1.jpg

[shannyD]

my oldest on my wedding day... jeez where do i start.. its hard to keep them properly dressed the whole time when your meeting. greeting, getting married, doing the whole wedding thing. trust me.. little kids dontwant to be at the wedding at all.

i dont think that this is a fair thing for you to do.. blaming your photography because of the way the little kid is dressed.. then basically blaming the mom and dad. i think for the situation, and being a bride once myself. you did a great job.

leave the mom and dad a lone. they were busy doing a lot of other things.

and the outfit is straight up adorable. even if it is too big.

shan

[Sakuraba39]

I can see where the photographer would be a little resentful. The second photo is very cute, but he could be mistaken for a special needs kid as well.

[AndreaBFS]

I think I would have been frustrated, too. If I'm being honest. I think I would have just straightened him up, in the same way that my wedding photographer made sure that the train of my dress was laid out nicely or asked a bridesmaid to hold her bouquet a bit higher, etc. It's probable that the parents didn't even notice. Parents have a way of filtering out little things like that with their kids.

The first picture is very cute, though. But as a parent, I don't think I would want an album full of photos like that, either. :::shrug:::: Hard to say.

[Zansho]

Eh, I wouldn't worry about it too much. You can control the photography aspect of the event, I'd focus on that. There's not much you can do about what others choose to wear or what kids are wearing. There will be things out of your realm of control - this was just one of them.

For what it's worth, the kid's absolutely adorable in the first photo. THAT'S a positive reflection on YOUR photographic skills. You captured a very natural moment, and that's a credit to you!