My 30 year old cousin passed away a few weeks ago in a tragic work accident. He wanted to be cremated so they didn't have funeral but his friends at work rented a banquet hall and held a very informal memorial serive for his friends and family to get together and celebrate his life. As soon as I walked in the door my uncle, his father, asked me if Ibrought my camera. I specifically brought my 30D and gear hoping that I would get a chance to shoot some pics of my family that are across the country. My cousins remains were not present, but I still felt a little weird about it at first. Pretty soon I had family members asking to get shots with other family members and his co-workers (both my cousin and his dad, my uncle, had worked with these guys for many years and were close) were asking for shots with his dad... I have a whole stack of email addresses to send shots to when I get through them all. It was a small gesture that was greatly appreciated by my family. The gist of my post is that if the husband wanted the shots, then the rest of the family has no business worrying about it. I am sure that it will mean a lot to him and he will appreciate you for doing it..