Ugh...I Hate Gut feelings (Vent/Rant inside)

[Wheeltracks]

Ok, so my gf just left to go shoot a wedding with another photographer. I don't know why, but from the get go, I have not liked this. She knows him from our work, he comes in every now and then and they converse about photography and his busines..yadda...yadda...yadda. Now he came in about a month back and asked her if she wanted to shoot a wedding with him. Now, Normally I honestly wouldn't care. But there are two reasons I am not to happy. The first being that this weekend was supposed to be a weekend that we had planned on having to our selves, to not do anything other then work, come home and relax and not do a damn thing. Its been forever since we have been able to do that. (she forgot that it was this weekend and said yes as soon as he asked her). The second reason, and it may be stupid, but I honestly like the fact that she's shooting a wedding with someone that she barely knows, has only talked to really when he came in to the store to get stuff for his equipment, and then recently through e-mail. I personally just don't feel comfortable.

Now maybe I am being way over cautious and worried, but it just bugs me. She already apologized for the first reason, and said it won't happen again, but I am sure it will cause she's not good with dates. But the second, she know's my concern and thought about it and everything, but still did it cause its good for her career, and I know that. I dunno, its probably stupid that I don't like the situation, but what ever

/vent

[digirebelva]

Would you have as much heartburn if it had been another woman she was shooting with.."its good for her career, and I know that" but...you are feeling uncomfortable with it...either you trust her, or you don't, if you are both into photography in a big way, then put yourself in her shoes, how often would you pass up an opportunity to learn & improve your skills on someone elses dime..I do it when I can, male or female...my wife understands my reasons, and is okay with it...timing sucks no doubt...

[suecassidy]

Chill. If this is a guy she has a romantic interest in, it will evolve regardless of whether or not she is shooting a wedding with him. (Shooting a wedding is NOT going to be much of a good time as far as spending time with him. She will hardly interact with him, it is a fast paced, high stress time!) If it is merely as presented, an professional opportunity to shoot a wedding, don't get in her way and act like a jealous husband. Either way, To HER I would say, "This is a giimpse of your future, honey..." I would run away as far and fast as I could from someone who is acting like you are today. Get over it.

[UBN]

Come on, let it go. If she want to do a wedding and specially if it's good for her career why would you want her not to? Are you not suppose to be the one that supports her in her decisions and not the guy who get grumpy because she have to blow of one weekend. There will be more days for you two to just kick it and relax.

She probably think she knows this guy well enough for it to be okay anyway so whatever you feel don't really matter.

So crack open a beer call some friends and just have a good time unless you have children, then you should take care of them

[Michael_B]

Wait a few days...say" oh yeah, how'd the wedding shoot go?" And if she looks puzzled and then says" uh, oh yeah it went great." Google divorce. No just kidding....your fine. No really. Do this.

[JAZZ D.P.G.]

If you can't trust her now, how are you going to react in the future?

Sounds like you may have the problem, not her. But we don't have the whole view of things.

Going to be a lonely life if you have a lack of trust in your partners.

[frugivore]

Originally Posted by Wheeltracks

The second reason, and it may be stupid, but I honestly like the fact that she's shooting a wedding with someone that she barely knows, has only talked to really when he came in to the store to get stuff for his equipment, and then recently through e-mail. I personally just don't feel comfortable.

So what exactly are you worried about? I don't think you've mentioned that. And are you anticipating the worst possible outcome of this event? Have you considered the best outcome?

[Wheeltracks]

it has nothing to do with whether or not she will cheat on me, i promise you that. anyways, im over it now. we talked it out and everything is good.

[gingerbeer]

i understand.. i used to get those feelings myself. just 'not liking' something. sucks especially because you know at heart that it's irrational and what not, but you still can't simply set rid of it.
that feeling will be gone before you know though. cheer-i-o!

[Jericobot]

My gut feelings versus what seemed like the right thing to do got me a messed up NCAA bracket.
Just trying to lighten the mood