umphotography wrote in post #13365974
This is incorrect thinking. Hindsight is always better than forsight
. But i would have immediately shown her the image and asked if she was OK with it. I look for this kind of stuff when photographing women Knowing how women think about this, especially as they start hitting the 30-40 age bracket, i would have switched her and her husbands positions. I would have had her sit much taller to be the highest point in the scene and twist a little to stretch her out. Height and a moderate turn would have done wonders for her, and probably would have helped with the crease in the face.
I dunno, I'm a woman, who also happens to be the same height (ok slightly taller) than my husband. It would be very awkward for me to be placed higher in the composition than my husband to "lean me out". It would be unnatural and I just wouldn't like it. 3/4 twist and all that, yeah sure, I'm up for that. But extra height, no thanks. Especially since it looks like he's a bigger person than her, it would throw the whole thing out of scale.
It's not that the women hate the photos or your work, it's that they are programmed to pick out their flaws. That's what they are seeing.
As for women picking on themselves, yeah, I know. It's awful and I hate it and I am trying to raise my girls that they don't learn this behavior, but let's face it - plenty of women do this. I consciously try not to nitpick all my imperfections (of which there are many!), to set an example for my daughters who are 7 and 9. My mom criticizes every picture of herself and usually will turn away from the camera, hide her face, etc. Wonder why my sisters and I struggled with self esteem.
It's going to sound trite, but I don't think a man can ever really, truly understand how much pressure women are under to look good. Sometimes that pressure is external, sometimes it's internally generated. Some women are better at handling that pressure (or rejecting it) than others. You can try to be sensitive to the issue, but I don't think you'll ever feel the need to do a couple hours' worth of hair and makeup before a shoot; choosing clothing that doesn't highlight what mother nature cursed you with; to work your ass off to stay skinny and fit only to find your facial skin sags and wrinkles because of not enough body fat. It's complicated. No wonder we're complicated. Lol