birderman wrote in post #14691075
I know what it is like having a girlfriend that doesn't what you shooting girls, I used to do a fare amount and when I met the girl I settled down with and had a family I found that I was forced into the corner of giving up my hobby she even whent as far as making sure 90% of my work prior to meeting her was destroyed.....I had a good 22 years with her but without my photography now that she has left me I am now trying to get back into my hobby and hopefully get to the stage where I can start earning some pocket money from it. Whilst I don't regret my life with her I do feel dissapointed that I allowed myself to be forced into such a corner as at the time I was almost ready to turn pro and had some good contacts that would of helped. Anyway its all in the past and I shouldn't be crying over spilt milk as I now have the freedom to photography what and when I desire.
I was in the exact same position.
Gave up my love and passion for photography for almost 15 years.
It has been a little difficult getting back into my "rhythm" considering that when I left, digital cameras hardly existed!
Have a WONDERFUL Bride-To-Be now that lets me shoot whatever I want and actually encourages my love of glamour photography.
Bought me my first digital camera as a "push" to get me back into it.
Coming from seeing both sides I can tell you this, if your girlfriend has a problem with it now, it will only get worse with time. It is very rare that she will ever change her mind.
That leads you to the big question of, "Should this relationship continue?"
I can't answer that for anyone but myself. I will say this though, I WILL NEVER EVER enter into a relationship with another woman who doesn't understand what and why I shoot what I shoot.
I refuse to allow someone else's insecurities and self doubt about themselves squash or take away my passion for my art.
If they are unwilling to look at something like this with an open mind and trustful heart, what else down the line are they going to restrict me from doing?
Control starts out small, like a spider web slowing wrapping around your feet. Eventually engulfing your entire body and making it hard for you to do anything and always seeking permission to do it.
Next thing you know, you’re trapped and she is sucking all your blood out.
Sorry, not for me anymore!