First up, I have Asperger syndrome. So I'm direct, and don't always realise when I cross the line, even unintentionally. So tonight was a free charity gig, a fundraising ball. I goofed big time.
I'm getting ready to photograph a group of 4 on the balcony. One girl (mid 20's) has a birthmark on her shoulder. 2.5 inch by 1.5 inch, and noticeable. Obvious, but not glaringly so. First thought was to get them to bunch in, hoping that the guy next her her would cover the mark and problem solved. That wasn't happening as the mark was still visible. So I politely, or so I thought, asked him to move over to cover the birthmark. Big mistake. I was accused of being insensitive and horrible. I apologised and then tried to explain that most women wouldn't have wanted it showing. Then I asked if she wanted me to shop it out. That was me being even more horrible and they thought I was deliberately being insensitive on purpose. So now I'm feeling awful. It was one of those wishing the ground would swallow me up moments. Turns out the guy, who I found out is one of the organisers, wasn't impressed at all.
So, 1). How out of order or insensitive was I? 2). How would you have handled it. It really upset me, that I upset someone that way, and that my Asperger Syndrome was responsible.
I guess I should have just took the picture and cloned out the mark.
Any advice on how to avoid this in the future is gratefully appreciated.