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Thread started 15 Jul 2017 (Saturday) 19:17
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How would you have dealt with this.

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Jul 16, 2017 21:29 |  #31

Can't win 'em all. Just think of it as a lesson learned and move on. It's a free gig after all, it's not like you'll ever see them again.

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Colin ­ Glover
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Jul 17, 2017 05:40 |  #32

A big thanks for all your kind and funny words :-) , really cheered me up. I have a better idea how to deal with something similar now. It sure is a learning curve. Well the shots are great :-) which is good. I did try and get the guy to cover the shoulder without asking, but it wasn't happening. Once again, thanks all.

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Jul 18, 2017 13:40 |  #33

if its permanent, (scar/tattoo/birthmark​) leave it. if its transient, (spots/hairs/boogers) remove it. she was clearly ok with the birthmark being visible, so why mention it?

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Jul 18, 2017 23:37 |  #34

WOW! to answer your question yes you were an ass. Now, if you were offended by that, understand I have Asperger myself and cant help it. So you see where Im going. The problem after you did this was your fault, not theirs. Most likely this person was a friend family member. Its perfectly OK to defend someone you care for, and you insulted her. Your best way out of it at that point would have been to tell them what your condition is, and hope that was OK with them.

Just taking the picture and cloning out the mark is about as bad as what you did, maybe even worse. Do you really think she does not know its there? She will notice, and that will hurt her even more. Seriously if you are not able to get these basic social skills, you should not be doing what your doing without adult supervision.

Best of luck to you...

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Jul 19, 2017 00:10 |  #35

Consider swiching exclusively to product photography.

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Jul 23, 2017 03:48 |  #36

As far as appearance goes, never assume. If they are comfortable, then there's nothing to worry about or hide. It would be different if it were a stain or rip in clothing or something. But when it has to do with their physical appearance/body, let them tell you if they have an issue.

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Jul 26, 2017 00:04 |  #37

Colin Glover wrote in post #18403164 (external link)
....coming to this situation 10 minutes later, the Asperger's brain over compensates and assumes that the subject will want to look their best.

The root of the problem is that you are actually assuming she wants to look your best, not her best. You didn't ask how she feels about it so you can't know what the thinks "her best" is. Instead you decided based on your own preference.

DaviSto wrote in post #18403320 (external link)
I think that would be exactly what the subject would have preferred. She 'owns' her birthmark but she doesn't 'proclaim' it.

But again you are presuming to know what the person wants.

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Jul 26, 2017 03:10 |  #38

My english is not to good to explain this situation but You can read Kevin Hogan books. It is very well explained wher is the line wich we should not cross in relation. Sometimes situation like this just hapends and it is not depends from as.
I do not know if I explain it right but i try. The pint is that if You touch someone hidden sorrows hi overreact of it if someone, like you, tell or do enything.
I wos not ther so I can not judge this situation. Maybe it wos not anly the words, maybe it wos ton of a vioce. Who nows.
Do not worry. Every body has situation like this. Just say sorry and live on.

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Jul 26, 2017 06:03 |  #39

My advice is do not over analyze grip and grin shots. Line people up.. get a smile from them..check the background and shoot . Don't sweat the small details like a birthmark. I don't photoshop grip and grin shots.

Tough situation.

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