Any married fashion/model photographers??

[algee]

And I don't mean a photographer/model union. Just curious if there are - How do you do it?

I love gorgeous women. I love photography. But the wifey would NEVER ever....EVER...approve. My sole intention is about getting "the shot"....no really. But YES I enjoy the "whole" process....meeting, chatting and the like.

I've done a few shoots already of friends here and there, and posted the pics under anonymous flickr accounts. I'm thinking if I keep on this path, I'll eventually get busted.

Plus I don't like having to keep everything on the down low.

Could I articulate it to her in a way that would lead her to believe that this is my "art" and "passion", and that she shouldn't worry? Yes. But believing it is another story.

HELP!!!

[James Robert Gratiot]

This is one of those areas where you should probably put yourself in her shoes. If she was secretly taking pictures of hot male models (and not telling you about it)... would you believe one word of nonsense about "art" and "passion"?

And yes... eventually... you will get busted. And that ain't going to be pretty.

So it looks like you've got a choice to make.

[LoveLee]

i am the girlfriend of one of the photographers on here, and i use to get really jealous of all the time he spent with his camera. the cure was including me in the process.

he taught me about the camera, how to use it and the technical stuff. he showed me this forum so i can learn more and study the different genres of photography. im currently learning a bit about studio lighting. and lastly he takes me to his photoshoots so i can help style (i have an amateur background in make-up) and im pretty good with posing clients.

if my boyfriend hid anything from me, i would not take it lightly if it was something i didnt approve of and i caught him doing it anyway. so before your "passion" drives a wedge between your relationship find a way to fix it now.

[Karl Johnston]

Theres a great thread about this over in GN forum, in the discussion part.

[Gentleman Villain]

Originally Posted by algee

How do you do it?

Do you want the truth and nothing but the truth? Do you want the non-politically correct answer? LOL

You're going to hear lots of stories coming from people...but the only way to really know the outcome of the story is to wait 10 or 20 years. Why? Because women store things up....They may go along with something for awhile and you think everything is fine...she's cool...Then one day....BLAM it all comes out

The only way to know if something works or not is to give it the "test of time"

Many of the wives and girlfriends that are OK with this photographer/model relationship thing won't actually be OK with it in the long term. SOoner or later...something is gonna happen...and they're gonna trip out...and Kaboom...your Fked

What will make a wife/girlfriend trip out? WHO knows? IT could be something they see on Oprah...It could be something they read in a magazine. They might not like the way you smile when a certain model calls you on the phone. They may be feeling old and bloated one day? WHO knows? But one thing is 99% guaranteed....sooner or later the trip out is gonna come. NObody can predict what will start the trip out....we can only predict that it is going to occur with 99% certainty.

And when the wife/girlfriend finally does trip out...WATCH OUT....because they're gonna have a lot of ammo acummulated against you from all of those years of dealing the models. They're gonna remember all kinds of things that that a man would think is trivial but women will think is the end of the world.

It's true...there are a small portion of wives/girlfriends that can be OK with the model/photographer relationship...But there aren't many....And it's true that there has to be something in it for them. But what could possibly be in it for them? Think about it that really hard LOL What could be in it for them? Maybe you won't like the answer to that question LOL

Just having some fun...but I've seen a few guys lose their marriages over this....so there is a bit of real life experience behind these opinions.

[breathless]

Solution:
Make it your business.
Make tons of money.
Buy wife a Porche.
Shoot happily.

[craiglee]

Originally Posted by breathless

Solution:
Make it your business.
Make tons of money.
Buy wife a Porche.
Shoot happily.

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[lauderdalems]

What's more important here.
Spending 30-60 minutes of your life taking some models pictures for which you are not paid, OR
spending a life time with the woman you love.

[kencas]

OR,

like in my case you can introduce your wife to the joys of photography!

My wife is not technical (i.e. knows the A on the dial, but doesn't know how it actually works), but she is far more creative than I. So when it comes to model shoots I always get her to join in the shoot, ask her opinion of styles, angles, poses, backgrounds, etc, and then honestly listen and adopt a lot of what she suggests. As I am honest with her, she is helpful and supportive of me. So it means that I am learning creativity (something that I struggle with sometimes) whilst teaching her the techniques. It is honestly a win-win situation (and sorry for the cliche)...

But ultimately, if she were uncomfortable with what I was doing, I do know where I wish to be in 10 years time!

Ken.

[KAD]

I think your first mistake was sneaking around. It's not an If it's a When question to her finding out. You'd probably want it to come from you verses one of your models or their husbands, etc.

Just imagine the Neighborhood picnic-- Husband of model comes up and says what a great shot you took of his wife, to your wife. And how it looks almost life-size in there (insert room here). Maybe he even wants to know what she thought of it.....

You certainly won't score brownie points then.

[jblaschke]

I started getting interested in photography two years ago. I shot a few models, and The Wife--who has a photojournalism background--wasn't upset, but she was wary. I arranged for her to shoot one of my model friends, and that loosened her up a bit.

Fast forward a year. The Wife is now opening her own photo business, and tasked me with arranging a boudoir shoot for her portfolio. I booked the models, hotel room, etc. I assisted the entire time, adjusting lighting, lens selection, wardrobe and props. I managed a few shots of my own, but is wasn't until everything was over and we both collapsed on the hotel room sofa afterwards that we realized we'd been working with very attractive partially-nude and lingerie-clad all evening and hadn't actually noticed.

The resulting photos were sexy. The process that created them was anything but. If you're focused on the technical aspects of nailing the shot, there's not much room for distraction.

This is no longer an issue for me or The Wife.

[algee]

Originally Posted by breathless

Solution:
Make it your business.
Make tons of money.
Buy wife a Porche.
Shoot happily.

And you know, this solution could possibly work. My wifey is all about the mighty dollar and toys..haha

[Agnu]

Deffinately one of the reasons that i'm a Landscape photographer haha.

[Alleh]

It's pretty clean cut, if she can't get past it and you really want to advance your photography you need to lose her. You can't have woman who doesn't trust you controlling what you can and can't shoot. You can make compromises but they need to be reasonable. You just need to decide what is more important.

[Alleh]

Originally Posted by lauderdalems

What's more important here.
Spending 30-60 minutes of your life taking some models pictures for which you are not paid, OR
spending a life time with the woman you love.

I have a hard time understand how someone can love you but not trust you at all. Now if you were bringing girls into your studio to shoot nudes behind her back because it got your rocks off that would be another thing.