To much ... ??

I haven't been shooting and using RAW very long and I can't figure out why my skin tones loose that sharpness detail whenver I process them. I usually pull them straight into CS5 and then run may a few modifications on them I normally sharpen each photo to maybe 30% and add noise reduction to 8-12% but this makes my skin tones all mellowed out causing my photos to loose their tiny details.. The first picture here is my processed RAW photo and the second is straight JPEG from the camer it hasn't had any adjustments. Can somebody please help me figure out why I get the smothed over look? I don't want it I just want to have RAW controls and keep all my origional in my case right now better deatiled JPEGS... Another thing I seem to have trouble with is I don't think I'm processing my colors right, I'd of liked for this RAW to be the same shade of red as the JPEG but I never could get it to come out right without messing something else up.. Should I be shooting a hight f-stop in the studio to help my clarity?

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Because that's what NR does. It doesn't distinguish between noise and acne or other detail. Mask off places where you don't want the NR or don't apply it automatically and needlessly.

A lot of people seem to regard the jpg as the "true" image that the RAW editing has to emulate. It's not, it is just one possible rendering among infinite possibilities. However, if it is the rendering you prefer you shouldn't be using ACR. You should use the same software that made the jpg - DPP.

if I understand correctly. You saying that your jeps look different than your raw file? and you are trying to match the ACR/raw to the jpeg?
There are alot of post on this. Sorry dont have the link.
Reason your raw look different than your jpeg because Raw is untouch, Jpeg is processed with your user setting on the camer. The camera applied your sharpness, contrast, and tone to the jpeg.
Raw is like film negitives (Unprocess).
Anytime you do noise reduction and low ISo, you will soften the image. Use more light. take a better picture and you wont need noise reduction.

An untouched RAW doesn't look like anything, it's not an image.

Precisely. It needs some processing to be done before you can see anything. With work ACR processing can resemble camera processing, sort of, but it takes work.