
I got married in Brazil 5 days ago. Congrats to me


Congrats!

She (The photographer) was using a Nikon Crop with a kit lens (I would think that FF is the norm for a wedding?)..
My wedding photographer was using a Nikon Crop camera. Our pictures turned out great.
One doesn't necessarily need a diffuser...

When i asked the misses to ask if i could have the RAW files she didn't even know what RAW was...
That is pretty bad. If photography is one's profession, they should be knowledgeable in it enough to know what RAW is, even if they choose not to use it.

I had my 60D with me with my 17-55mm, she commented at the end that her dream is to have my camera....
We paid the equivalent of 400 British pounds..
You get what you pay for. As others have mentioned above, did you check out her portfolio first before hiring her? What do those images look like?
On a side note, when my wife and I were getting ready to make save-the-date cards, we asked one of our friends to go to the beach with us and take our pictures for us. She only has an XSi and kit lens. I also brought my 50 1.8 for her to use that day as well. As far as how to use all the settings on her camera or what RAW is or how to change depth of field, she was pretty clueless. Even so, her eye for composition and creative ideas for shots were pretty good. I took the photos and did post processing on them myself (not much was even needed) and we got several really great shots to use on our save-the-date cards.
So, I guess I'm saying, it might not be as bad as you may have initially thought. The only way to really get any idea would be to see her portfolio of work.