No guests were bothered by any of the lights.
That you know of. A lot of people are very non-confrontational and wouldn't ever speak up publicly or to someone's face.
(my assistant and I went around to ask after this group left)
I think that is incredibly unprofessional, too. You are going to go around telling a group of friends and family of your clients that people have issues with how you work? Issue was resolved, spend your time creating images.
Could I have moved the lights? See previous post on that specific question. Options were take it down or place it somewhere that neither safe or productive to what I'm doing. Neither is an option.
It is absolutely an option to adjust your shooting style if your is bothering guests so as not to create a scene. How bothered the guests were is irrelevant. You could have diffused the scene by adjusting your lights, but you chose to act unprofessionally and escalate the situation.
Some of you really think you can solve all situations w/o reaching out to B&G or someone else?
I have never seen a reason to interrupt the B&G on their wedding day to settle a dispute between you and a family member. They aren't the teacher and they aren't the principal. They are two people in love on the most important day so far in their life. Respect that and if there is a situation, handle it professionally without getting them involved if they don't need to be involved. And they didn't need to be involved in this situation.
He set the tone on how we communicated.
It doesn't matter. You are there in a professional capacity. You cannot blame his douchebaggery on how you react to him or how you treat him. You could have apologized and moved your equipment and adjusted your style for the night, but you choose to escalate the situation instead.
I don't care who you are or where we are... assume you do not have permission to touch my gear. If it causes you issues, let me know as soon as you can - don't play games.
So he should have stopped you from shooting the first dance to tell you that your equipment was annoying? I'm not saying he was right to touch your gear, but you need to see it from his perspective [even if he is a stupid bugger.]
A single guy that shows up at a wedding with 4 girls isn't someone that's thinking about getting married any time soon...
You are making judgements about people without knowing anything about them. The people at the next table could have been. You just never know. Everyone in every wedding is a potential client in some way.
I deliver the pictures. They're unhappy about some of the results. And then I spring out the "well, there was this one guest that made it tougher to get what you wanted, so this is the best I could do in that situation"
If you aren't good enough to adjust to another situation then you shouldn't be shooting weddings. What if your AB just fried? Are you no longer able to shoot the wedding because of that equipment failure?
The B&G don't need to know every little obstacle you overcome in their day. There will always be something, but if you become a source of stress, you can count on not getting referrals.