btmlinedan wrote in post #15753075
i'd agree with pretty much everything everyone says...
but let's not forget about making the day about the couple. You may take amazing photos, but if you are a jerk to their family, guests, etc...or just a bore to be around then that's what they will remember.
SMILE! Ask if you can get them anything. Compliment them. Act as though it's your friend getting married. Go above and beyond to make sure they feel like the entire day is revolving around them!
a small example ; i did a wedding in 110 degree heat, carried hankerchiefs for both bride and groom, always had extra water for them etc. The shots were on par (nothing i'd brag about but) from the day, but they tipped me several hundred dollars (a few hundred the day of, and another few hundred after i sent the cd) just to say thanks for going above and beyond.
I'm not saying do that to get some extra loot, I'm saying do that because THEY only have one wedding day... you may have one every weekend.
just 2 my cents.
This is really the best advice for a potential wedding photographer.
and it really reflects the difference between 'running a business' and just 'taking wedding pictures'.
just got hitched in hawaii 2 weeks ago... did everything through a wedding coordinator, and I was VERY nervous about what kind of photographer was going to show up. I brought some 'backup' gear with me, JUST IN CASE they stuck us with someone who figured it would be 'fine' to shoot us at sunset on a beach with the pop up flash on their rebel...
Fortunately, we got a real pro, who did an amazing job. Probably the best part of the experience was his attitude, presentation of himself, and the way he set the bride and myself at ease. I'm sure he only planned to spend 45 minutes at the beach with us, but it stretched into almost 2 hours, as we both love photography, and enjoy doing creative things for the camera!
He always had 'just one more thing we can do', and kept us engaged and excited for almost 90 minutes after are little 15 minute ceremony! We were VERY late on our dinner reservation, but the images were SO worth it. My new bride cried, she was so happy with his work.
This could have EASILY gone another direction, if our photographer had turned out to be competent, but not personable.
so, to bottom line an overly long story, if you can't present a winning personality to people who are complete strangers, be their buddy, and go that little extra mile to set them at ease, maybe, don't be a wedding photographer?