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Best friend asked me to shoot his wedding....

 
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Mar 27, 2013 22:33 |  #1

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Mar 27, 2013 23:04 |  #2

I would never do it


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Mar 27, 2013 23:07 |  #3
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I wouldn't do it either. For a friend, I'd do it for free; but here you're also dealing with the bride: if she's not satisfied there's gonna be trouble.


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Mar 27, 2013 23:10 |  #4

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Mar 27, 2013 23:19 |  #5
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Sounds like a plan.


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Mar 27, 2013 23:41 |  #6

chrismallet wrote in post #15763839 (external link)
"I didn't know photographers were so expensive... and you're really good!"

Your answer there is "Well you should see what I charge first before saying they are expensive"


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Mar 28, 2013 00:20 |  #7
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^^ LOLOLOL


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Mar 28, 2013 00:23 |  #8

I have received the same request from my girlfriend: she wanted me to shoot the wedding and she would pay. Thankfully I have my clients wedding the day before - this was my excuse to get myself out the situation as I told her I can't shoot two weddings in one weekend. I have offered her to hire another photographer and I will do her e-session and shoot a bit on a wedding day.
I am also traveling to my other girlfriends out of country wedding. She made it very clear to me that she wants me as a quest there and not as a photographer.
Two different people: two different approaches, that's why you need to educate your friend: if he wants you as a guest he has to hire someone else otherwise just give him your friends discount and treat this as a full time wedding job.


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Mar 28, 2013 00:27 |  #9

When you photograph friends they see you as a friend, not a professional. It just doesn't work. I've done it a couple of times, but I won't any more. Last time a friend asked me I said "No way, I'm coming along as a guest and getting drunk".

You can be part of the wedding, or you can photography it, not both.

Just say no, nicely, and why.


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Mar 28, 2013 07:10 |  #10

tim wrote in post #15764098 (external link)
When you photograph friends they see you as a friend, not a professional. It just doesn't work.

I agree, it's hard to pose and manage friends they way you do people you don't know and they also react differently, too.

That said, I've only done this once. I gave them the entire shoot plus a nice album free as my gift to them. They were nice enough to put me up in a hotel the night before and after and they were also very adamant that I not shoot the entire reception and enjoy the celebration too as they valued mostly the ceremony and portraits photos.


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Mar 28, 2013 07:56 |  #11

Sine I've been a pro I've shot quite a few friends weddings. They've always paid. The only freebie I'm doing any time soon is my sister's wedding. My gift to her.


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Mar 28, 2013 09:01 |  #12

if you are best friends, and you aren't the best man... or in the wedding party... sounds like your best friend is using you and the friendship to save some $$

when my best friend was getting married, he approached me on the subject of wedding photography, and asked who I would recommend to take the pictures....


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Mar 28, 2013 10:44 |  #15

chrismallet wrote in post #15764923 (external link)
I'm leaning this way but when I let him know why she messaged me upset that I dont want to do it and asked me to help find someone who "needs a portfolio". Which just makes me feel bad that they'll probably get crap photos.

They'll get what they paid for. End of story.

Sounds like she's knowingly/unknowingly taking advantage of you. If that was my friend, best friend or not, I'd tell that person to simmer down. In fact I'd question my whole friendship with that person.




  
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