Reading between the lines…

gjl711 wrote in post #15790189
No it's not, your just saying that.

Well, that's cause all screeching sounds the same.

What really need to happen is that women need to learn how to communicate. If it's more than three words or requires tone interpretation, might as well be speaking that African clicking language.

BWAAHAHAHAHA! Coming from the person who can't remember your own anniversary but probably knows the opening date of every sport.

I am sorry that your wife doesn't communicate with you.

OP...I think you KNOW if it's really fine or not.

"It's fine" means "You don't need to worry because I'm gonna murder you and bury you in a shallow grave - or do something even worse like let you live and spend the NEXT 10 years reminding you (and all our friends) that you screwed up".

Btw that is the good outcome. The bad outcome is she thinks this wedding is a cover story for a surprise 10th anniversary party. When it turns out not to be the case and you really did book work on your anniversary things will get real nasty.

Dan Marchant wrote in post #15790252
"It's fine" means "You don't need to worry because I'm gonna murder you and bury you in a shallow grave - or do something even worse like let you live and spend the NEXT 10 years reminding you (and all our friends) that you screwed up".

Yup...this could very well have merit! Dude...you're in SO much trouble!!

But I must be honest...I truly don't understand women who don't come out and say what they mean, or women who try to belittle their man in public. I learned a long time ago to never embarrass your man.

Some women take longer to learn that...some never do.

What, you screwed up, and now you're asking a forum of people, who spend enough annually on camera equipment to pay the New York Yankees' salaries, for marital advice. Are you nuts

IMO, you are probably OK.

First off, if this is your worst mess up in 10 years, you are doing well.

Anyway, plan something special for another day, especially if she is cool with it. It's not like you are blowing her off to go out with the guys (and not be productive to the household). ON the 20th, just make sure that you say something to her about it. Even though you do have to "work", it is still a special day. Wouldn't hurt to be preemptive either by saying "happy anniversary" first. Also, maybe it isn't an all day thing, but something special (gift, some time "out", or whatever) before you have to leave for the wedding would go a long way too.

It may not be an ideal situation, but you are far from screwed.

Dan Marchant wrote in post #15790252
The bad outcome is she thinks this wedding is a cover story for a surprise 10th anniversary party. When it turns out not to be the case and you really did book work on your anniversary things will get real nasty.

Man, I didn't even think of that. She might think the wedding is a front for a big party or a some other thing.....Its really not...Surprise! Its really a wedding....I am working....

Kronie wrote in post #15790396
Man, I didn't even think of that. She might think the wedding is a front for a big party or a some other thing.....Its really not...Surprise! Its really a wedding....I am working....

Maybe give her a GC or book her into a spa while you are working give her something to take her mind off the fact your not home with her.

Littlejon Dsgn wrote in post #15790437
Maybe give her a GC or book her into a spa while you are working give her something to take her mind off the fact your not home with her.

She gets to watch the kids. Isn't that enough?

"No, it's fine." is wife-speak for "Why don't you just slit your throat. It'll be less painful."

You might live if you give her the entire income (gross, not net) from the shoot to spend on herself.

And now, open your calendar and mark as reserved every day special to her from now until forever.

20droger wrote in post #15790464
And now, open your calendar and mark as reserved every day special to her from now until forever.

You would think that after TEN years he might have done that already..."old dog...new tricks", ya know.

OhLook wrote in post #15790223
Hey, buddy, communication requires a sender and a receiver. It doesn't happen unless someone's listening.

What? Lost after "Hey buddy"

The person you plan on spending the rest of your life with and you cannot remember your anniversary after 10 years...that says to me you are not very interested in it, or you have other issues.
Phones, computers, paper calendars - a million ways to put it in writing so you do not forget it.

An apology and then let her know that from this year forward you will not forget.

And yes women and men GENERALLY look at this in different ways in terms of how they perceive one feels about them.

pbelarge wrote in post #15790573
The person you plan on spending the rest of your life with and you cannot remember your anniversary after 10 years...that says to me you are not very interested in it, or you have other issues.
Phones, computers, paper calendars - a million ways to put it in writing so you do not forget it.

An apology and then let her know that from this year forward you will not forget.

And yes women and men GENERALLY look at this in different ways in terms of how they perceive one feels about them.

Neither. I just have a lot going on....I confuse her birthday which is 6/25 with our wedding which is 7/20. That is what happened here. I did just finally mark it in my calendar to repeat every year.

I cant remember my kids birthdays either. My first son was supposed to be born on friday the 13th but he was born on Saturday the 14 @ 12:05 am. So whenever someone asks for his birthday I either say the 12th or the 14th....I know its not the 13th...My other kid was supposed to be born on 08/09/10...Which I thought would have been a cool birthday, but he was born on 08/08/10. Whenever someone asks me for his birthday I get it wrong....

this all sounds too familiar..... I did this on my 11th anniversary, not the 10th, and I haven't stopped hearing about it since. I basically got the same response, "it's ok," but obviously it wasn't since I keep hearing about it every year. To a lot of women the 10th is a BIG thing. Had I been able to see what I know now, I would have canceled! Not worth the money which is so temporary, as compared to your relationship.