This is still relevant, and worth reading: http://www.bythom.com/support.htm
I pretty much did what he said don't do. My first Bogen 3221 tripod was a decent aluminum model, pretty sturdy overall, great for macro, and definitely a cut above cheap tripods, but I went through several heads before I finally settled on the Kirk BH-1 10 or so years ago. Now I have Gitzo legs (carbon fiber) as well. If Induro or Benro had been known when I did that, I might have saved a few pennies.
As far as heads go, I totally agree to go with an Arca-Swiss compatible model. There are quite a few good ones that loads of people love. Kirk, RRS, Arca-Swiss, Acratech, Markins, and more.
When I compared the Aluminum Bogen vs the Gitzo carbon fiber with a 300mm f/4 and a crop sensor body, it is night and day. The Bogen, when tapped, would wobble for a long time in the viewfinder. The Gitzo settles down immediately. I'm out-of-date on the latest models, but I'd certainly go for carbon fiber legs whatever the brand.