airfrogusmc wrote in post #15851939
Arrogant and rude? A wedding photographer has a tough job and if he is having to move people out of the way or wait for them to take their photos its prolonging the B&Gs day which is long and stressful as it is and for what, so those that are the offenders can have photographs with no regard for anything except doing what they want to do? Who are the rude and the self centered in that scenario? Not the working photographer. Hes just trying to do a very hard job and give the B&G the best work he can give them and in many cases just made harder by those I just mentioned.
Bridezilla or photogzilla? I'm glad that I am already married so that I no longer have to choose if these are the only two choices left anymore.
I have been to several weddings where the photog had issues. Either lack of experience, professionalism, equipment, etc. that caused an opportunity to have been missed (or would have caused an opportunity to have been missed if there hadn't been a few Uncle Bob's running around). I appreciate your concern for the stress on the bride and groom, but part of the professionalism that the couple expects is for the photog to handle the situation for them. Not to come complaining that their dear, sweet Aunt Myrtle won't listen to you and keeps getting the wedding party to look at her instead of you when you want to take a photo.
I see many posts on here from individuals that have been wrangled into doing a wedding for the first time (some by choice, others by guilt). So often, the question is about whether the gear that they have is sufficient, and the response is often that a professional could be successful with that (but that they should convince the couple to go find a real professional). How one handles the stress of the day goes much farther in my book in defining a professional (and whether they are ready to shoot a wedding) than how much or little they earn in profits.
I've shot several weddings as the primary photog and too many to count as an Uncle Bob. I've never asked for a dime, and in the eyes of the law, that kicks me out of the professional category. However, most of the times that I was the primary photog were situations where the special day was falling apart and the "professional" realized that they were in over their head too late. I know what I am doing (technically and creatively, though I don't have "shot lists" memorized) and was able to help in such situations. If I hadn't Uncle Bob'd it, things would have been worse in those situations, but I also have enough manners to stay out of the way when I'm not needed.
I believe that one of the greatest temptations for the Uncle Bobs out there is that the professional has a command of the situation. Whether organizing, posing, or just making sure that things from a photographic perspective run smoothly, these are skills that your normal Uncle Bob does not possess. The Uncle Bob's that have these skills already usually have built them through hard work and will not be under foot. I try to keep in mind that they are giving me a roundabout compliment in wanting to tag on to my posing, etc., and I often work with them. I ask them to please keep their cameras down until I step back/away, but also giving a minute for them to piggy back on the shot. With on-camera, on-axis flash, I doubt that I would be missing a lot of sales even if I did charge. Those that appreciate quality photography, will probably not be happy with the "deer in the headlights" look and those that don't wouldn't likely cough up $$$ anyway.