Sorry FreeSoul, I didn't mean to come across as a jerk. Pretty serious subject that is very hard to communicate about in this format. You need to feel safe, and feel that you are keeping your kid(s) safe. Sounds like you have given it a ton of thought and are doing what is right for you.
I totally understand, and I really hope I didn't come off as jerky or "snippy". It really is hard to explain everything, without remembering or thinking I missed something that would help. My excuse for that, I have ADHD and I could have a whole paragraph (book) in my head but only have a few sentences here, thinking I have completely explained myself to you... it's a curse I would assume
Tom Reichner, things like this happen in real life. A woman walking her child back in Georgia just a month or so ago, two teens walk up to her, threaten that if she didn't give any money that they would kill her 13 month old boy, she had no money, they shot and killed the boy. Here in my town, just a few months or less a guy was walking down the street and got shot in the leg by a drive by, a strip joint just the other day had a drive by shooting, one guy (probably something to do with drugs) was chased to Walmart (him and the other were driving), shot in the back while trying to run into Walmart, he lived though. Another case, last year a woman was running at 5 in the morning on our riverfront, attacked from behind by a man and raped (can't remember if she lived or not). A sheriff in I believe Kentucky was shot down, he was headed home and for some reason got out of his car and walked near an embankment or overpass where the shooter apparently was hiding. A passerby found his body and called police. This isn't a movie, it's reality and there are bad people out there, being a woman it is probably slightly more dangerous for me than you and I don't intend on taking chances. If I thought movies were real life then I would expect that holding a gun gave me absolute professional skills with it and I could do what Angelina Jolie does in Tomb Raider, but I know it doesn't because I understand the difference between reality and fake.