Skippy29 wrote in post #16201493
I still cannot accept that iKirst is not with us any longer...
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I hear you.
klippe wrote in post #16118137
Moppie did a sterling job of reading Dave's words for Kirst at her funeral. In my opinion, they were the most moving words said that day. Dave's words left me with a very acute sense of Dave and Kirst's friendship. A friendship that has been tragically cut short. I can only begin to imagine what Dave is feeling. I have said it before and I'll say it again. Dave, I am so sorry.
I consider myself very lucky to have known Kirstine. I spent some interesting times with her where I got a glimpse into some of the difficulties she's had in her lifetime (some of those on this forum will be familiar with those troubles - Kirst had more friends than perhaps she knew). But, despite those momentary glimpses, I never knew things were as bad as they were. I had spoken with Kirst for quite some time in March this year, she was upbeat and seemed to be enjoying her life. Perhaps it was just a 'show' for me. I don't know.
Needless to say, I was simply staggered when I heard the news......
It throws into perspective all that we 'think' matters in this life. So much of our day-to-day troubles really shouldn't be given any level of importance. Enjoying life is the most important thing we can strive for. Being happy. Having support networks and people you can speak to HAS to be one of the key things in life. Without them, some obstacles seem insurmountable.
For some people, they will not be able to see a way out, period. We must all realise that we will never be able to 'save' everybody. I struggle with that at times. Some will chose a path that ends their troubles abruptly - without them having to go through the struggle of confronting those troubles. Unfortunately for those left behind, it leaves only unanswered questions and the despair that comes with knowing that they would have helped if only they'd been asked.....
I have some really neat memories of Kirst and it's those that I will cherish in years to come. The fact that she left us early is a long-distant second.
Godspeed 'iKirst', you are one in a million.
I've just spent some time flicking back through the thread covering the period while I was away, if I'm honest, entirely because I wanted to hear and see what people here had to say. Cliff, I know you got hold of me on FB too, but reading this, I feel genuinely touched - I thank you for the kind words.
I know most of you here will know of Kirst, some very well, some not so much - and of course to everyone her passing was in many respects a huge shock. I don't claim to have any bigger part in her life than anyone else, and I'm not trying to start a competition or anything, but the reality is 6yrs ago now when I found this thread and started pestering the sh*t out of all of you guys - and now looking back - being yet another clueless idiot Pom while doing it, you all welcomed me and didn't give me too much cr@p.
Yet Kirst was the one who met me at the airport. Kirst is the one who phoned me most weeks, who would physically not let me within 50k's of Auckland without hunting me down and coming for a hug. She was more than a friend, she felt like the core of the family I've developed in NZ where I simply don't have any 'actual' family of my own. I loved her to bits and always will...
I saw her other half last night, first time I've been able to see anyone who was part of her life since I've been back - and being filled in on things was pretty hard. My deepest sympathies go out to all of her friends and loved ones, those who won't read this and those who are here.
Lastly I'd like to publicly thank Moppie. When he was married last year, both Kirst and I, thoroughly amongst the sh*t with life attended the wedding as each others dates (and in case you're wondering, no, not like that) and frankly being at Moppie's special day couldn't have been more special with anyone else. So it was with some gratitude that he offered to speak at Kirst's funeral on my behalf while I was away in the UK. You guys know by now I wear my heart on my sleeve so I believe the stories I've heard saying it was bloody difficult for Moppie to read what I'd written. The fact he did, at a time where the only thing I wanted to do was be with her, but I couldn't, is something I simply can't ever repay or say thank you enough for. Moppie, I'm forever indebted - love you man.
This world is poorer for her not being here, our only consolation that at least now she's at rest in herself.