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Aug 18, 2013 20:03 |  #1

So my cousin went ahead after thinking it through for a while, and did get divorced from her husband of 12 years. Not unexpected as he's a bum, but they met in college. He had high hopes, a now useless degree + unpaid loans, etc.
Oh, ye, they was going to go off into the sunset and start a life together... them 2 college kids. When the economy tanked, so did his dreams of making it big.
She waited for him to get his career going, but her patience ran out.

College. Wow, what a waste of time and money.

So, her parents had her wedding photos all over the house, in the living room, bedroom, a VHS copy of the wedding, an album of their daughter with her husband... oh, and shots of his parents next to him, and bride's parents next to her.
The in-laws came for Thanksgivings and birthdays, and family get-togethers... a lively bunch, to say the least.

Ok, so now what? Off into the dumpster those shots go? Her mom's both parents passed away a few years back, and our family I suppose are keepers, but why keep photos of ex-husband, ex-inlaws, and so-called "friends"?

BTW, she is 35, no kids. I say about 80% of weddings I've been to in the last 20 years end in divorce, mostly due to lack of jobs, loss of $ in stocks and real estate.




  
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Aug 18, 2013 21:56 |  #2

And the point to this story is.....?


If you're asking if she should keep her photos I would say yes. It was a part of her life.


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Aug 18, 2013 22:29 |  #3

jcolman wrote in post #16219916 (external link)
And the point to this story is.....?

I was wondering the same thing. I thought perhaps it was a Facebook status update accidentally placed in this forum.


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Aug 19, 2013 02:51 |  #4

If you want to say something along the line of one shouldn't get wedding photos because one might get a divorce later, ouch! Actually one wedding photographer we interviewed for our wedding suggested that we take photos with our parents one parent at a time just in case they got divorced soon after our wedding. Obviously we didn't go with that guy...


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Aug 19, 2013 03:27 |  #5

Gomar wrote in post #16219686 (external link)
So my cousin went ahead after thinking it through for a while, and did get divorced from her husband of 12 years. Not unexpected as he's a bum, but they met in college. He had high hopes, a now useless degree + unpaid loans, etc.
Oh, ye, they was going to go off into the sunset and start a life together... them 2 college kids. When the economy tanked, so did his dreams of making it big.
She waited for him to get his career going, but her patience ran out.

College. Wow, what a waste of time and money.

So, her parents had her wedding photos all over the house, in the living room, bedroom, a VHS copy of the wedding, an album of their daughter with her husband... oh, and shots of his parents next to him, and bride's parents next to her.
The in-laws came for Thanksgivings and birthdays, and family get-togethers... a lively bunch, to say the least.

Ok, so now what? Off into the dumpster those shots go? Her mom's both parents passed away a few years back, and our family I suppose are keepers, but why keep photos of ex-husband, ex-inlaws, and so-called "friends"?

BTW, she is 35, no kids. I say about 80% of weddings I've been to in the last 20 years end in divorce, mostly due to lack of jobs, loss of $ in stocks and real estate.

I reckon this says way more about the OP, his cousin, and that side of the family than it does about the bloke she divorced.


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Aug 19, 2013 08:49 |  #6

memoriesoftomorrow wrote in post #16219987 (external link)
I was wondering the same thing. I thought perhaps it was a Facebook status update accidentally placed in this forum.

Wondering the same here :) Is that a rant about college education being a waste? Downturn in economy? Or wedding photography being wasteful cause 80% of weddings (according to your stats) end up in divorce?


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Aug 19, 2013 09:02 |  #7

He's asking your opinion on throwing away the old wedding photos. Comprehension is fundamental.

Ok, so now what? Off into the dumpster those shots go? Her mom's both parents passed away a few years back, and our family I suppose are keepers, but why keep photos of ex-husband, ex-inlaws, and so-called "friends"?




  
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Aug 19, 2013 09:04 |  #8

So basically she married a guy who had a college degree and because it didn't pan out economically for him, she dumped him? That seems a bit harsh. Did she marry an economic plan or a man whom she loved for who he was as a person?

I guess the answer is obvious but wow... I guess the lines, "for better or for worse, for richer, or for poorer, in sickness and in health. I promise to love you and cherish you,and be faithful to you for as long as we both shall live." went right over her head during the ceremony.




  
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Aug 19, 2013 11:49 |  #9

She should ask the photographer for a refund.


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Aug 19, 2013 11:54 |  #10

Elusivesouls wrote in post #16220998 (external link)
So basically she married a guy who had a college degree and because it didn't pan out economically for him, she dumped him? That seems a bit harsh. Did she marry an economic plan or a man whom she loved for who he was as a person?

I guess the answer is obvious but wow... I guess the lines, "for better or for worse, for richer, or for poorer, in sickness and in health. I promise to love you and cherish you,and be faithful to you for as long as we both shall live." went right over her head during the ceremony.

This is putting it lightly.


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Aug 19, 2013 12:41 |  #11

many women are pretty indecisive, better keep the photos, they may end up back together.
haha j/k :)


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Aug 19, 2013 12:58 |  #12

wow...nice thread. Just toss out the dirty laundry randomly. haha.


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Aug 19, 2013 13:43 |  #13

Elusivesouls wrote in post #16220998 (external link)
So basically she married a guy who had a college degree and because it didn't pan out economically for him, she dumped him? That seems a bit harsh. Did she marry an economic plan or a man whom she loved for who he was as a person?

I guess the answer is obvious but wow... I guess the lines, "for better or for worse, for richer, or for poorer, in sickness and in health. I promise to love you and cherish you,and be faithful to you for as long as we both shall live." went right over her head during the ceremony.

That was my first thought as well. Pretty sad.

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wow...nice thread. Just toss out the dirty laundry randomly. haha.

Yes really.


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Aug 19, 2013 13:47 |  #14

I enjoyed the story; If we could get our photos to tell a story like that we would be famous.


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Aug 19, 2013 13:55 |  #15

snerd wrote in post #16220991 (external link)
He's asking your opinion on throwing away the old wedding photos. Comprehension is fundamental.

So are brevity and clarity.




  
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