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Oct 19, 2013 14:06 |  #31

I'd tell her I had better not see any of MY photos of her

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Oct 19, 2013 15:16 |  #32

1000WordsPhotography wrote in post #16382964 (external link)
You are asking me to account for someone else's thought process. I didn't. I asked you:

...what were the exact words you used? What was their response? Why do you think the bride was so confused?

I'm not asking you to account for someone else's thought processes. I'm asking you to tell us what words you used to tell the bride and groom that the 40% discount was in exchange for use of the images in your portfolio. Answering that question does not require the ability to read minds.

I'm a photographer, not a mind reader.

And we are all photographers and business people, not mind readers. You asked us for our thoughts. I asked you some very simple questions based on the words that you used in this thread. You chose not to answer my question (which is your right) but you responded with a non-sequitur. Either you did that on purpose: or you read my questions and your brain read the question as saying something else.

I've already told you that I told them clearly what my intent was. And that I communicated it verbally, in the contract and in a followup questionnaire. I don't have more data to give you.

"Clearly" is a subjective word. You may think you were clear: but in the middle of the wedding...

"The bride pulls me aside and says she had better not see their pictures online at all, that she owns the pictures and forbids me to use them."

What were the exact words you used when you told the bride and groom the discount was for the use of the images in your portfolio? Answering the question is the "more data" you can supply the thread and will help clear up whether or not you have a communication issue. However:

So at this point we'll agree to disagree?

Well no. What position do I hold that you choose to disagree with? That I think you might have a communications problem? It is obvious in your response to me that you have a communication problem. You didn't answer my question. My question was about the words you used: not how they were understood by your client.

Its not a "I did something" or "this important detail is omitted" kind of thing. I certainly believe there is detail that might speak to state of mind but its not something I did, or influenced or could have stopped in any way. It couldn't even be perceived that way.

So you aren't giving us the full story then? A simple yes or no would suffice. link

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Oct 20, 2013 18:26 |  #33

So I called them a couple of times yesterday and left messages, sent an email and they replied they'd called.

The bride called me today and apologized for her "state of mind." she wanted to ask that I not post hundreds of their pictures on the Internet and especially nothing untasteful. And they left me a glowing review (5 of 5 stars) on the website they used to find me.

So alls well that ends well.

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Oct 21, 2013 02:44 |  #34

So what was this thread about again?

Cheers, Damien

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Oct 21, 2013 02:47 |  #35

dodgyexposure wrote in post #16386639 (external link)
So what was this thread about again?

Wait a week or so I'm sure there will be another one :lol:


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