armis wrote in post #16413231
Honestly, don't. You don't have anything to gain from that and hasn't this gone far enough already? B&G are happy about the shots; you've traded blows with OP; some guys here give you grief for various reasons, which is par for the course on the internet in general (let alone in this section of PotN, for some reason); OP is in trouble with B&G, which they may or may not work out in the end.
Just let it go. The clients are happy and you got paid, job done.
Armis - well said! I completely agree. Like I have said a thousand times - I truly, don't care if someone has an opinion about my work. I'm sure everyone has something to say about someones portfolio. The part that is frustrating is to be lied about and is where I feel the need to defend myself. At this point I am wasting my breath, but it doesn't only make her look bad - but it makes the bride & groom look terrible, which is completely disrespectful. I just want to make several things very clear:
- The Bride & Groom are THRILLED with their photos. They absolutely LOVE them.
- The bride & groom did not say anything that she is claiming they did.
- She knows nothing about my editing styles, shooting habits or service.
- My service is between the couple and myself. I don't care if it doesn't please her.
In the end - to be quite frank, because I'm really tired of repeating myself here. I appreciate everyone's suggestions, tips and even slight criticism on my work. It has given me definite insight for future gigs. I appreciate everyone's knowledge and willingness to share and help me learn. I am not a professional, and do feel there is a lot of room to learn. I get that. Everyone has their own shooting styles, ways of editing, etc. Leave it at that. As long as the couple are happy with their photos - yes, that is all that matters to me.
The part I find completely disrespectful is lying about me and my service. Really, stop. I do not personally know MissSnapper, have never worked outright with her. It is very clear of the egoism and immaturity on her part. To have to lie about a service you didn't select for a friends wedding is pretty low. Am I a perfect photographer? No. Is there room for improvement? Absolutely! Did the bride and groom like my work and hire me to capture their wedding day? Yes. None of those scenarios involve the input of her opinion. To be honest, I think the bride is more mad than I am. She is embarrassed that her bridesmaid and former-friend would cause so many issues. I will leave that between them. Looking for sympathy? Think not - but it's obvious who's looking for drama. I don't even know why I bother keep coming to this post. She is causing her own trouble and already teetering on the lines of a defamation of character suit.
All in all, I would like to point out to everyone, the couple are very pleased with their photos. This is the bottom line. I will never be able to avoid people like this bridesmaid - but obviously can leave as the better person in the matter. Though I don't appreciate how she went about this - I think she's setting herself up for failure on a personal level. Those who get a kick out of lying about others clearly have an issue with themselves deep down.
To everyone else, thank you for the feedback. For those who have sent positive notes, it's appreciated. There really is nothing more I can say on this matter - not going to waste my energy. Lie about me if you must, but it's not going to make you a better photographer.