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Is this creepy? If so, why?

 
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Dec 21, 2015 12:52 |  #1


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These are photos of my wife; some are finished, some are in progress. They're on a wall in my office/studio. Sometimes it seems that people find this a little weird or creepy but we're not exactly sure. They're always surprised, to say the least. Last night we showed this to a friend and she said to my wife, "Whoa! Looks like you've got a stalker!" We were both a little taken aback so we didn't ask her exactly what she meant, but I've never heard "stalker" used in a positive way.

So I ask you impartial strangers, Is there something weird about putting pictures of my wife all over my wall and if so, what is it?
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Dec 21, 2015 13:30 |  #2

If the room is in your home, go for it. If the setting is more public, such as a rented office space where people pass by, it may be wise to make concessions to visitors' sensibilities.


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Dec 21, 2015 13:33 |  #3

There is a fine line between devotion and obsession. If I were a client I would find it a bit odd at least that you have only one subject dominating your space.




  
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Dec 21, 2015 13:43 |  #4

To me the problem is not the subject as much as it is the arrangement of the photos.

It looks more like a scene out of one of the TV crime dramas where they have pictures haphazardly on the wall than the placement you typically see in a gallery.


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Dec 21, 2015 13:56 |  #5

It would be creepy if you didn't know her and you just told people she was your wife. :eek:


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Dec 21, 2015 14:47 as a reply to  @ gonzogolf's post |  #6

It's a private space; no clients.
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Dec 21, 2015 14:50 |  #7

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To me the problem is not the subject as much as it is the arrangement of the photos.

... the placement you typically see in a gallery.

I've never noticed a "typical" gallery; it seems to me they each have their own style. Could you give me an example?

I don't actually considered it "finished" though, it's a weird combination of some pieces hung exactly where I want them but then some of them are still being considered so I just put them up on the shelf while I ponder them, and also simply not having enough space. :-) But I'm still interested in what sort of arrangement you're talking about.
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Dec 21, 2015 14:53 |  #8

OhLook wrote in post #17827254 (external link)
If the room is in your home, go for it. If the setting is more public, such as a rented office space where people pass by, it may be wise to make concessions to visitors' sensibilities.

Definitely in my home. I don't really know that people are finding it weird; it's just a feeling I get sometimes. And I don't think friends would be honest about it because they wouldn't want to hurt my feelings. But I don't want to creep our friends out either. :-) That's why I'm asking here.
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Dec 21, 2015 14:54 |  #9

gonzogolf wrote in post #17827260 (external link)
There is a fine line between devotion and obsession. If I were a client I would find it a bit odd at least that you have only one subject dominating your space.

Would you find it odd that I have a wall that's covered with cat pictures?

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I don't find ncjohn's display strange at all.

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Dec 21, 2015 14:55 |  #10

BlakeC wrote in post #17827285 (external link)
It would be creepy if you didn't know her and you just told people she was your wife. :eek:

Yeah, for sure.:-D




  
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Dec 21, 2015 19:00 |  #11

ncjohn wrote in post #17827353 (external link)
I've never noticed a "typical" gallery; it seems to me they each have their own style. Could you give me an example?

I don't actually considered it "finished" though, it's a weird combination of some pieces hung exactly where I want them but then some of them are still being considered so I just put them up on the shelf while I ponder them, and also simply not having enough space. :-) But I'm still interested in what sort of arrangement you're talking about.
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A typical gallery has an arrangement. The arrangement may look haphazard or may be very organized. That depends on the style of the person who set up the gallery. What is typical is that it is arranged, however that may be. All the photographs you have setting on the counter or shelve without any type of framing is not what I would consider an "arrangement."

What your arrangement looks like to me is a work space, not a display. Take away all those lose photos and then to me it would look like a display "under construction," not a display ready to demonstrate your photography to customers or guests.

But being it is in your house and not where you are trying to influence customers or potential customers, what does it matter what anyone thinks about it?


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Dec 21, 2015 19:21 |  #12

Nogo wrote in post #17827649 (external link)
A typical gallery has an arrangement. The arrangement may look haphazard or may be very organized. That depends on the style of the person who set up the gallery. What is typical is that it is arranged, however that may be. All the photographs you have setting on the counter or shelve without any type of framing is not what I would consider an "arrangement."

What your arrangement looks like to me is a work space, not a display. Take away all those lose photos and then to me it would look like a display "under construction," not a display ready to demonstrate your photography to customers or guests.

But being it is in your house and not where you are trying to influence customers or potential customers, what does it matter what anyone thinks about it?

You're right; it was originally intended to be a display but became a work space simply because of a lack of room.
When our friends who haven't been here before ask if they can have a tour of the house, it's always a question whether or not to show them this room, precisely because it has become a work space. But the original question wasn't intended to be, "Is this a good display?" It was intended to be, "Do you think it's creepy having a wall of nothing but pictures of my wife?" I think it's a great idea, but I don't want to creep out our guests, even if is in my home.
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Dec 21, 2015 20:21 |  #13

I think it's sweet. It's like she's your muse and I think that's appropriate for your work area.
If you two have been together a long time, people may find it unusual that you still see her in that way (just a thought).


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Dec 21, 2015 21:35 |  #14

Not creepy to me. I understanding wanting photos of your wife. The only thing that might be remotely creepy is the multiple shots of close ups that don't include all of the face. That's not a perspective most people are used to. It's intimate to be that close, so I could imagine somebody being uncomfortable with it.




  
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Dec 21, 2015 21:49 |  #15

To be honest at first when I saw it I thought it was more odd than creepy but then after going back and looking at it and giving it some thought I see nothing at all wrong with it. This is your wife that you love and you are proud of her. It does have a certain intimate/erotic/sexual sense to it.




  
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