I debated whether or not I should comment, and I didn't read through all 3 pages so this may have already been said, but that type of interaction with a spouse is NOT normal. It may feel normal to those involved if they have never experienced anything else, but it is not healthy. Nobody hates the mere site of photography, or any other hobby for that matter, enough to say some of the things you mentioned.
The idea of "proving him wrong" by shooting more, working harder, getting better, etc., is likely not the best route...not for you, not for him, not for your kids, and not for your family. I'm not telling you to give up photography. Instead, I think you should strongly consider the possibility that you might only be seeing the tip of an iceberg floating in troubled waters...apologies if that is crossing the line, but I've been witness to the kind of behavior you describe and felt obligated to share my advice.