Okay, the title for the thread was more of a concept to get my question out there.
I'm used to landscapes, event pics which allow me artistic freedoms, and other images that allow me to interpret rather than what they chose to use on their IG account last weekend. I went thru the children's ministry classrooms and during their craft and free times capturing the kids having fun, and getting nice portrait type images which I really loved. However, when I reviewed the images they went with they had used close up on craft, craft in the process of being made, and kid standing holding their craft, in short, none of the images I'd contributed.
They had family camp this week so the leadership wasn't available for discussion, so of course I went to you guys 
My needs come in the form of pointers on mindset, and approach to jobs that don't sound as fun, but aren't necessarily "beneath me", but just require a different mindset.
One of the harder things is that I do this for free, so I'm never sure if they're telling me how they really feel, or what they really want. I get, "we love your pictures" a lot, but never any, "but could you maybe get some shots like this".