its not worth it. i had to put up with the stupid crap my husband did for the whole time he was in the marines.. strip clubs, bachelor parties and what not. i knew he wasnt cheating.. but it sucked anyway.. i had just had our third child.. and not exactly feeling my best.. and he drops that bomb on me. ( the did the strip club thing when a Marine was getting out into the free world)
he wasnt spending money on them, just a few beers, and would usually come home a little bit later) but it was still hurtful anyway. needless to say... the last time they had a party.. it was for him, and wives are never invited. one of his friends had left a comment on his myspace back then, of a stripper using him as her pole to dance on. i was unhinged in the matter of a second, and took off. ( it didnt matter that it didnt look like he enjoyed it) i still wouldnt answer my cell, stayed in a hotel for a week with my kiddos, and all of that stuff.
now with me being into photography, he is ok with me doing what i like to do.. if a guy wanted pics in his undies he couldnt care less, bcause my hubby knows i would rather take pics of him.
he found out that a male model on MM had asked me to shoot him, and saw that i had declined. ( i personally didnt feel comfortable with it, because he wanted something a little bit more than posing in his chonies.)
my hubby came right at me and told me he would have been ok with it, and offered to help me with lighting and hold the reflector. i was shocked..it was kinda cute seeing how sincere he was.. and thats not often coming from a big grumpy marine.
but when he was doing all that crazy crap.. i wanted to punch him in the face anytime he took a breath in the wrong direction. i was insecure about my body, about my mind, about how insecure everything was with always moving. and i was angry.
it does sound like this girl is after a little more than just some photos. i would drop it as soon as possible, because it is not worth doing this to your wife. she is the one who said she would love honor and cherrish you.. not this chick.
i would talk to her about future situations, and ask her to be your assistant on the shoots, and that you want her apart of your photography thing like that.
but its not worth taking pics of this chick because shes willing. it sounds like shes got more on her agenda than it sounds.
geez i ramble way too much.