jenirose3 wrote in post #7762295
I not being weird. She is extremely pushy and direct AND my neighbor. I have to live next door to her. I really don't relish the thought of socializing with the neighbors on our block including them and having this huge white elephant in the room. I realize it was my fault I started this by agreeing to do the first session for free. But she took from that that I was now her free lifetime photographer. I can't lie so I would be faced with the truth and no matter what I said she would of taken it wrong and it would be blown up.
BECAUSE she is your neighbor you need to be open and honest with her. I don't get people who think they're doing anyone favors by being dishonest with their reasons for not wanting to do something. A lie is a lie is a lie. If you plant your relationship with your neighbor in a soil of lies, it's unlikely to bear much fruit. The people who I really care about are the people who I *most* want to be straightforward and honest with.
You either have to forgive and forget or you have to communicate and resolve. If you do neither, whether out of weakness or out of passive agression, you probably won't like where you end up.
I went to the party. I didn't bring my camera. I really didn't want to lug it around while I tried to enjoy myself as a guest.
Can you hear yourself trying to talk yourself into believeing something you don't believe? You're revising history. You didn't bring it because you didn't want to take pictures.
I told her let me know when the cake shots are about to happen and I would go get my camera. I went to get my camera
You see? This is the problem. You aren't allowing yourself to have a spine. You don't want to do something, you do it anyway but reserve the right to be upset with the person you're doing it for. You are offended by something, you aren't willing to talk to the other person about it, but you reserve the right to remain offended by it. This isn't the way to living a happy life. It's our natural inclination, true -- but I'll say it again: you either have to let things go or try to work them out. Covering the problems up with falsehoods won't get you anywhere.