Yep didnt mean to come across as whining - accept its all my fault, I'm just annoyed that they don't allow it and was interested if anyone else had the same issue..
Don't agree with the privacy thing - its a club (what the diff is between this and a 'private establishment' i've no idea) and the place is full of members of the public drunk, having fun and as usual, taking photos.
I'll google 'un-deleting photos DSLR'..