Oh, the irony of it all...

Haaha. I always screw up the timing, or I nail the timing but focus didn't make it. I have reaction times of a slug.

My last wedding the groom just said to me.. "as long as you make my wife look good im happy". He didnt care about the photos.

cdifoto wrote in post #12552842
I gotta be honest, I too would rather drink than be photographed.

I'd rather photograph than be photographed.

siddr20 wrote in post #12556207
My last wedding the groom just said to me.. "as long as you make my wife look good im happy". He didnt care about the photos.

I'm fine with that kind've nonchalant attitude from the Groom as long as he participates in a happy way. In fact I reckon the best weddings are the ones where the Groom has limited involvement in planning and says things like "What do I do next?"

Are there times where the groom avoids beeing shot and later **** about him not being on enough photos?

It varies from wedding to wedding, the bride and groom were both really shy during my most recent wedding; they didn’t like looking at the camera and didn’t really like being the centre of attention. I think this is the reason why they choose me to cover their wedding though, I shoot with a photojournalistic approach, the only posed shots are the formals.

ibanezfrelon wrote in post #12556356
Are there times where the groom avoids beeing shot and later **** about him not being on enough photos?

never had it happen yet. usually the guys could give a rip less if there's a bunch of shots of him

Yeah, I had a bride that did not want to be photographed. Of course, I was oblivious to her saying "don't take my picture" because I was totally zoned on taking her picture and that was my job!

I don't understand. Isn't it all about the bride anyway?????

Almost all my clients say to me at some point in the process "...I really hate having my picture taken..." I don't really pose photos much, so they like hearing that

In my experience, people who say they don't want posed actually do...they just don't want a douchey type photographer who interrupts the segments to get awkward smiles.

Nobody really wants pure PJ coverage.

cdifoto wrote in post #12584949
In my experience, people who say they don't want posed actually do...they just don't want a douchey type photographer who interrupts the segments to get awkward smiles.

Nobody really wants pure PJ coverage.

Some do, some don't. Some want more than others. I do about 30 minutes of posed photos per wedding, give or take- not counting the family formals.

Ok, to add to the irony, the week after my "reluctant bride/groom", I get the exact opposite. This past Saturday, the wedding party was filled with fun loving, outgoing, cheerful people who made the night quite enjoyable (other than the 30 minute best man speech that included a PowerPoint presentation).

Your Story Photoart wrote in post #12553239
just wanted to clarify I was meaning YOU were the "men" in my statement. I think documentary is easy because you don't have to do anything. therefore I have more respect for those that can get people posed and camera ready quickly. I'm not bad at it but I'm definitely better at documenting.

For the OP, most couples that you'll encounter won't want to get their pics done. But most realize the importance of documenting their day and will rely on you to make them look and feel the best they can. it's just a part of wedding photography.

Amen. I suck at posing. Getting better, but I'm so much better at being a fly on the wall.

dan.k78 wrote in post #12551454
Believe it or not, it was the bride that was the reluctant one. You could tell she wasn't comfortable being the center of attention. Once the bar opened up and the wedding party became a little better "lubricated", it did get a little better.

LOL....'lubricated'...​.funny how that makes so MANY things work better.

Chelsey Somohano wrote in post #12600431
Amen. I suck at posing. Getting better, but I'm so much better at being a fly on the wall.

Well, I think there is a somewhat incorrect perception that photographers who don't pose a lot don't pose because they lack the skill to do it. It's not always the case. Some us who use a more PJ approach prefer to get actual, spontaneous emotions and more natural body language from the couples.

I think the recipe for success is to play to your strengths- if you are better at not posing, you should be more PJ. If you're strength IS posing, you should mostly pose and not worry so much about candids and PJ stuff.

Just as There are couples who want posed, more fashion oriented photos and there are couples who want to be posed as little as possible, there are photographers who want to do the former or the latter.