Pamela,
I just sent the photo to you. I can't be sure it's EXACTLY what either one of us are after - especially since I'm working today on my LCD monitor at work instead of my 'real' CRT monitor at home.
Here's what I did:
1. Added a Levels Adjustment layer to brighten the image overall
2. Added a duplicate image layer and burned in the edges to help pull the center of the image forward
3. Warmed the skin tones of her face and hands using a Color Balance Adjustment layer.
The one thing I couldn't help you with was sharpening. The image was just far enough out of focus. I tried just about every form of sharpening: USM, Highpass, edge mask, surface mask, luminance mask. Basically, to create any real change at all, I had to force the settings so far it looked very unnatural. So I went the other way:
I created a duplicate layer of the image, added a gaussian blur, and set the layer to "luminance" at opacity 40%. This has the effect of a soft/romantic lens filter so the images looks a little more 'dreamy' instead of out of focus. Finally, I went in and selectively erased the eyes, lips, and hair highlights of the 'dreamy' layer to reveal the original (slightly sharper) layer below.
I also dulled back the overal color saturation, brightened her eyes, and a few other little tweaks. Finally, the image is now cropped and sized for a 5" x 7" print at 300ppi.
You have a LOVELY little girl there. Mine will be 13 in a few days and your's makes me miss that little girl I used to know.
Blessings,
Kevin in Dallas