When will our wives just understand!

There is not a single aspect of photography that this forum does not provide guidance on.

You guys feel my pain.

Stupid misogynistic post. The treatment of women as pets or objects shines through many of the posts here, didn't read em all tho. Pathetic.

It's tough at first but a good rule of thumb applies to both of my shooting hobbies - Cameras and guns. the camera bag (or gun safe) needs to have enough in it that the wife will not notice the addition or subtraction of any item .
While that's pretty funny to me I do let my wife know whenever I spend north of $500 on stuff - keeps harmony in the house.
Another good trick is to make sure she has all the stuff she wants...

bheard1836 wrote in post #15646890
It's tough at first but a good rule of thumb applies to both of my shooting hobbies - Cameras and guns. the camera bag (or gun safe) needs to have enough in it that the wife will not notice the addition or subtraction of any item .
While that's pretty funny to me I do let my wife know whenever I spend north of $500 on stuff - keeps harmony in the house.
Another good trick is to make sure she has all the stuff she wants...

My wife got a new fur coat last night. I ordered a new 5D3 today.

mike_d wrote in post #14455407
They're never understand electronics the way we'll never understand having 17 pairs of nearly identical shoes.

17 pairs of shoes, ha, my wife was sponcered by Niki try 300 pairs of shoses
still in the box , worn once...............
farmer 1957

Lol - bribing the wife or just covering your bases?

I'm lucky to have a wife who doesn't mind my spending on photography. Part of that is due to the fact that I don't have other vice expenditures and that she knows I'm responsible.

ChrisSearle wrote in post #15644812
Stupid misogynistic post. The treatment of women as pets or objects shines through many of the posts here, didn't read em all tho. Pathetic.

Please clarify - I don't agree.

I just tell my wife - if she made a big deal of my hobby, I will cut her shopping funds indefinitely.... lol

I haven't bought much photography equipment this year. However, I've bought 4 pairs of shoes and 8 suits. I think I have as many shoes as my wife does (she can't buy many because she's a size 4 in heels and refuses to spend more than $100). She never made a comment about my purchasing... but I felt bad, so I was fine with her buying a new set of dining room chairs.

Question is: When will we understand that this conversation goes both ways?

Separate bank account...

I wonder how many who complain about their wife kicking up allow said wife to spend an equal amount of cash on what she wants.

Six6Sicks wrote in post #14456834
I had a pair about 6 years ago. My wife, then girlfriend decided it was better if she held on to them. There is no shame. She did give me the ok for the 70-200 IS II, but I think that was the final straw.....for now. I think I'm more bummed out cause of the price. I could get a 7D bay time, not for $900 though.

Make money with your stuff.

L.J.G. wrote in post #15688932
I wonder how many who complain about their wife kicking up allow said wife to spend an equal amount of cash on what she wants.

That is not the same.

L.J.G. wrote in post #15688932
I wonder how many who complain about their wife kicking up allow said wife to spend an equal amount of cash on what she wants.

I wonder how many even frame their thoughts about money management as "me allowing her to spend."

I make purchases with my money. My husband makes purchases with his money. We were old enough when we married that we each had separate money and were used to handling it. For joint purchases, such as things for the household, we decide case by case. In a partnership, you have to cooperate about budgetary matters as about everything else.

OhLook wrote in post #15689314
I make purchases with my money. My husband makes purchases with his money. We were old enough when we married that we each had separate money and were used to handling it. For joint purchases, such as things for the household, we decide case by case. In a partnership, you have to cooperate about budgetary matters as about everything else.

Some people don't really learn how to spend and handle money, unfortunately. This year, my wife will be 29 and I will be 33. She will tell you that I'm better at managing money and saving than she is. In my opinion, however, she knows how to spend less better than I do. That is, I will make unnecessary expenditures, but I manage to save significant portions of my paycheck into our joint account. She spends more wisely than I do, but is able to put less aside because she makes less. Ever since we got married, we've kept separate and joint accounts. I worry about the big bills and she pays for the day-to-week expenses like household supplies and groceries. We never sit down and talk about who pays for what and I will still pay for some weeks' groceries and she fights somtimes will fight me for restaurant bills. There's certainly cooperation - but in the back of my mind I saw growing up how money got between my parents and started countless arguments... it's easier that I make a comfortable living - of course, that's not guaranteed to always be the case but we try - but I told myself long ago not to allow money control our marriage. I will give up many things before letting that happen - lots of families make do for much less.