There is NO set way a histogram should look, firstly, so you're wrong in that respect. As for not hurting feelings, there's a way to talk to people and there's a way NOT to talk to people. Generally, calling someone a fool falls in the latter category. It shows malice behind your words and what has anyone done to you to deserve it? A histogram should be used to gauge exposure, that's it. There is no perfect histogram because depending on what you want your photo to look like, the histogram will reflect different things. If you're wanting a darker photo, it will be clumped to the left. If it's high key, it will clumped to the right. You have every right to make your point, but calling people fools isn't really necessary.
Calling somebody a fool does not show malice. For example, "a fool and his money are soon parted" shows no malice, nor do the numerous verses in Proverbs show malice. Being called a fool doesn't make one feel good, but they either have 3 options: change themselves, ignore the comment, or change others. Each one comes with a different set of results.
Also, how to use your histogram to obtain the look you want is not in question here, but rather which of the following is better or more wise method to use when determining whether exposure is indeed where you intend it to be:
1) "do you use the exposure meter"
2) "do you use the LCD image review"
3) "do you use the histogram"
4) "do you use blinkies and shoot to the right"
5) "do you use some combination"



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