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Sep 15, 2012 18:31 |  #1

Hello all,

This is really aimed at anyone who users Facebook, though I suppose it could apply to people who are trying to use it as a platform for their photography promotion/business.

In a nutshell, the new format makes it easy, for people like me, who are busy and not Facebook obsessed, to make a huge mistake when "catching up" with people.

What happened?

Well, amongst all my usual work, we also moved home in August....so I didn't have internet access for a couple of weeks.

Logging in last Thursday, I saw a photo of my best friends' newborn baby. We shared a house during our university-days for two years, and I love them both to pieces. They moved to New Zealand from the UK, and I quickly added my congratulations.

Friday, I had an email from another friend who asked me to look again at the photo and the few "comments" among the 30-odd who had got the full picture....
...the baby had actually died, the day before he was due. He was induced thereafter as a normal medical requirement.
The photo, in his father's arms was their attempt to start the recovery process.

It's a beautiful picture, but a newborn baby with his/her eyes shut, looks just like that.

Suffice-to-say, I wrote a long, private message explaining my sadness for them, and an apology for adding a message without reading other comments properly.

Many others also had simply added a "congratulatory" message....so it's not just me.

It seems that the FB platform does now make it easy to make such a blunder.

SO, please, be careful.

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Simon
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Sep 15, 2012 19:35 |  #2

Horrible story Simon.




  
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Sep 16, 2012 05:12 |  #3

rick_reno wrote in post #14996492 (external link)
Horrible story Simon.

Hey Rick,

Thanks for adding a comment.
Yes...a truly terrible story/situation.
And having been blessed with our first son, almost 14 months ago, I simply can't imagine the pain my friends are going through.
I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

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Sep 16, 2012 07:46 as a reply to  @ skygod44's post |  #4

It seems that our lives even in slow motion today is like fast forward in the past.
Everything seems to be about speed, as we try to pack 3 days into 1 day, and it has become the norm.
One of the side effects of our lifestyles is just what happened, miscommunication. I am in an industry where this is not something that happens once in a while, but the norm.

Sorry for your mishap, I am glad you actually caught it though.


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Sep 16, 2012 08:09 |  #5

pbelarge wrote in post #14998054 (external link)
It seems that our lives even in slow motion today is like fast forward in the past.
Everything seems to be about speed, as we try to pack 3 days into 1 day, and it has become the norm.
One of the side effects of our lifestyles is just what happened, miscommunication. I am in an industry where this is not something that happens once in a while, but the norm.

Sorry for your mishap, I am glad you actually caught it though.

Hi Pierre,

Thanks for the message.

I've just heard back from my 3rd-party friend who says the couple are in deep shock, but trying to plan "what to do next".
It's simply awful to think about, especially as our 1-year old is such a massive part of our lives....and it's the same story with all of our mutual friends.
Only these two, have had such a loss.

And regarding life, well, I'm one of those who tries VERY hard to not live life too fast....I mean, where's the sense in that?
It really was a case of, "Great, internet's back on...think I'll dash off a few quick 'hello' messages! Oh look, H & N have had their new baby!!! Wonderful news!!!!!!"

Ooops....a trillion-times-a-trillion over.

Regards,
Simon


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Sep 17, 2012 08:05 |  #6

Wow Simon. I am very sorry for their loss and thank you for the heads-up. Based on your story, I know that I will slow down and check things out before posting on FB in the future.

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