3 things control your DOF; your aperture, your focal length & your distance to subject. If you want a more shallow DOF, open up your aperture, use a longer focal length, and/or be closer to your subject. If you want a larger DOF, do the opposite.
You can definitely get a shallow DOF with that lens, even though the aperture doesn't open very wide. Just get closer to your subject and zoom in to use a longer focal length.
I have the 55-250IS which only has a maximum aperture of f/4.0- f/5.6. But when I get close & zoom in, I get a nice blurred background.
I don't know how close I was to my subjects, but some examples:
179mm f/9
250mm f/10
187mm f/6.3
So even though I wasn't using my 50mm f/1.8, and wasn't using large apertures, I was still able to blur the background because I was using a long focal length & was close to my subject.