I've had several PM conversations with various members when the topic comes up in threads - but I haven't grasped a full understanding of what is happening.
I have come to accept that my RAW image, is not going to match my JPEG preview (I shoot RAW only) due to picture style camera settings, what I can't understand is the lack of consistency I have of the way the images change when I import them into Lightroom 3.6. While several people have suggested creating an import preset that matches the camera picture style, I don't have a consistent variation across the images.
My camera setting is user defined from Neutral, with contrast, saturation and sharpening turned down all the way.
Many images often require +1 stop exposure or even 1.5, as well as fill adjustments some images require NO adjustments. Most imports result in a "flattening" of the image as well as a drop in exposure. I'm not a processing expert and don't know the terminology, but the difference in exposure that I had tried to create between a subject and a background during the shot, seem to get closer together resulting in the flattening of the image - this phenomenon has created the most trouble for me, as I am unsure what/how to adjust to get the image back the way I originally had intended, and how it looked on the screen. The fact that it changes so much is leading me to believe there is something wrong with my shooting technique, but when the preview image turns out the way I intended, metered, and adjusted the camera, I felt like I did everything right.
Another thing I don't understand (at least the relevance), is it appears images produced with ISO 100 need much more adjustment than images taken with say ISO400. Likewise, if an image is exposed with the subject illuminated by flash, it is often very close to the preview image. On the flipside - I took several images in the same location, with the same camera settings, and the change in the image upon import varied based on the composition and the amount of black/white or light/dark in the image. I've noticed this with ETTL which I understand will change based on metering mode and the scene, but I've also noticed this with Manual flash settings as well.
What I'm looking for is a basic understanding of what is happening inside the camera during this process, and how I can adjust my shooting or metering techniques to minimize this effect. It really slows my post processing down, as I almost have to adjust each image individually, and I've even resorted to the "auto tone" button on many occasions just to speed things up. Something about that just seems wrong on so many levels to me after I put so much into creating the image I want....

