First of all, it sounds like you are using some sort of automatic mode for focusing, which isn't a great idea if you want control. You are either in scene intelligent (greenbox) mode, or you are in a manual/semi-manual mode with the '61-point automatic selection AF' selected for your focusing method - which in both cases will cause the camera to automatically focus on the nearest object regardless of what you desire...
So, the smart way to do it is to 1) activate all 61-points OR at least 41 of the cross-type points for better composition freedom (9 points is a pain to compose with) and then 2) change your focusing point selection method...there are 6 options and you need to choose something besides the last one (which tells the camera to automatically choose a focus point). I would recommend playing around with 'Single-point AF' as this would let you choose where YOU want the camera to focus, and you do so by dialing in exactly which focus point youd like to use. Additionally, you can go ahead and expand your focus point using an 'AF point expansion' mode. Should your main target move out of or away from the first af-point you selected, either 4 or 8 surrounding points (depending on the mode you choose) will kick in to keep the autofocus running. Really cool stuff I highly suggest you spend some time in the manual.
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