Best thing I've learned from a Millionaire friend of mine about business is not to complicate it. He told me for years, don't overthink it, don't over analyze it, make it as simple as it can be. I was stubborn in the beginning and things were just giving me a headache however slowly but surely as I relaxed and didn't complicate things the advice has worked out well.
If this was a situation that I was dealing with I would EXPLAIN to her(bride) how the whole copyright thing works and then say "It would be a delight to make this work for you with the videographer". Remember communication will help arrive at an agreement.
Who gives a flying fffff if he uses a badass image of you to promote his services ?
He is a Videographer! (People are not stupid,they will know and acknowledge 'hey the videographer has an interesting image, lets ask who shot it?' ) His skillset dies with video shooting and producing not being a photographer. If he wants to use your images CLEARLY he appreciates your work to a point that he is interested in incorporating it to make the video work right. Dont let pride or ego judge a potential business relationship with both parties. Obviously she is NOT your last client, be easy on this, it will work out in your favor in the long run.
A) A satisfied bride who can brag about how great of a "Deal" she got from the amazing photographer who shot her wedding to her lil friends on Facebook is a never-ending marketing tool for you. And soon when she gets Preggo and Fat you will be once again called upon to capture those "Precious" memories of her maternity. You smell that yet ? Thats the smell of $$$$$$. And then when the baby is born, you can be the photog to go for those priceless newborn photos and then birthday photos and then you still smelling that smell of $$$??
B) Extend your services in a not so forward way to the videographer. Also stress onto him the importance of Credit & Copyright on this particular job but don't be uptight. Talk to him in a casually professional way. Don't talk down,its not about you, you, you and your way;its about US as a team and working together to benefit each other. Flexibility is key. Let him know you will work with him on this project but next time as a professional to professional you would like to workout some details which can benefit you both financially. Thing Big,think Benjamin's,those pretty green Benjamin's(well kind of bluish now).
Compliment the sorry sucker on how great his work is and how easy it was to work with him side by side at the event,even if you don't think his work deserves it in your eyes or maybe it does.
You want to eat good and drive a fancy car and have cash in your pocket to buy whatever you want ? or you want to have a headache on your hands where the word will get around that you are a "difficult" person to work with ? You want more work ! You like money !
Think about expanding business relationships. By you blowing a little smoke up his arse with compliments and passing an idea that you want to work together in future,may stroke his ego the right way and show him that you came to him because you respect his work and you are the type of a classy guy to work with in the future. He will be thinking of the guy who was complimenting him on how great his work was and a person who actually helped him nail what he needed for a client. That you're a guy who can be relied on in a needy situation. From there-forward its all about sealing the deal and cashing that check! And don't forget to follow up. Hey you may even end up hiring him for another job in the future at a good rate because he will be more willing to work with someone who is good to him than a "difficult" person.
Remember a smart baby calf has two momma cows. Double the milk!
Work good,Eat good,Sleep good,Live Happy.
I'm a wedding photographer (have been for about 3 years) and I did a wedding with a videographer who is now saying he needs a few of my images to make her DVD covers? And he went through the bride, who of course probably does not understand how the whole copyright thing works (even though she signed a detailed contract stating the images are only for personal, non commercial use, etc.). I know a lot of photographers will say it's not worth starting something over this but I can't settle with the fact that someone would use my product to enhance their product which they can also use later to promote themselves to other brides??
I've thought of different scenarios and even if they did credit me on the cover, what if they edit the hell out of the images with some horrible effects-which will just be floating around with my name on it. I have no affiliation to this person and I don't owe them anything and it bothers me that they wouldn't use their own stills. I'm also a video editor and I know it is a very simple thing to do. If the bride had not had a photographer what would his back up be? I have no problem with working with other vendors like florists for example who want a photo for their website with my credit, etc.-but that would never be confused as their product like this would.
I am aware they could just do this behind my back in the end but I feel it's my responsibility to draw a line somewhere as I work very hard to build my reputation as a wedding photographer and screen everyone I choose to work for me as an assistant, etc so that everything I represent is the best it can be. I don't feel comfortable with some stranger taking my images for their company. I just don't know how to go about telling the bride without upsetting her.