Hi Pam,
I have the DigiBee setup (http://www.alienbees.com/digi.html)
. I have a small space for my "studio" as well and have found this to be enough light. I havent had them long, but havent had a need as of yet to move them up much past half power. I used them on two on-location photo shoots and still had more than sufficient output. Not to say I would not like to add 2 AB800s at some point, but if you are shooting in a small space in your home, you can easily work with the AB400s IMO.
In regards to softboxes, umbrellas, etc. I was not particularly found of the umbrellas, though they do have their uses....I just did not like them for portraits. Not wanting something that would be a pain to setup and take down, I chose to get a Photek Softlighter II, the large one (http://www.photekusa.com). You can use it like a softbox, a bounce umbrella or a shoot through. It sets up easy, like an umbrella pretty much, so there is little construction on your part. You can get them through B&H at a much lesser price than the MSRP on the manufacturers website (which happens to be in CT, too!). Watch eBay, too. I have seen a couple of new ones at yet a better price recently. I dont know about the threads here, but if you go to the FM boards and search for the Softlighter you will see a lot of praise and positive feedback on the product. The quality of the construction and the lighting itself is super. I think this is a great product for someone just starting out with studio lighting since it can be used 3 different ways and the price is right.
Instead of using the 2nd light as a fill light, I have started using it as a hair or background light and using a reflector for fill. I got the reflector on eBay, a Fotodiox 5 in 1 32" (http://cgi.ebay.com …7&ssPageName=STRK:MEWN:IT
) for $16.95. The price was great and the quality seems to be equal to that of the more expensive brands. Heck, people use foamcore or tinfoil so I doubt the brand of a reflector makes much difference. You will want an arm to hold this on a 3rd lightstand. I purchased the cheap general purpose one from B&H (I think it was $20something) and it seems a bit flimsy, but it is holding up fine and it does the job. I upgraded to an Impact HD lightstand ($38 from B&H), swapped it with the general purpose lightstand on my main light since that now needs to support the "softbox" and use the AB gen. purpose stand with the reflector for fill. I apologize if Im all over the place here LOL
Basically I am now using the following set up for my tiny space I call my "studio" :
1 AB400 with Photek Softlighter II, 7" reflector, Impact HD Lightstand
1 Gen Purpose Lightstand, Reflector Arm, 32" 5in1 Fotodiox Reflector
1 AB400 w/ 7" reflector on an Impact hairlight stand (still need grids & gels)
Calument backdrop support
Japanese Radio Slave 4 Channel AC to trigger lights, the sync cord is a pain*
*if you opt for one, get THIS one as some of the other generic models are not reliable. This is good for 60+ feet (they rate it for 100) without fail. It works like a charm and has not once malfunctioned. Unless you want to spend hundreds on Pocket Wizards or wish to remain tethered to your lights, this is a great, inexpensive way to go if you are only looking to trigger your flash.
Hope this helps. Email me at karina@karinabrach.com
if you have any questions.
I am in CT, too. Where abouts are you?
Good luck!