You're mixing the setup methods here.
The 7D pioneered the new setup method for the buttons, the method now used for the 1DX, 5D Mark III and so on. Thus the lines with shutter button/rear button no longer exist, nor the relationsships between different buttons and their combined setups.
On the 7D, the button configuration menu dedicates one setup to each button.
Thus to set the 7D for back button focus only, what you do is that you remove the AF function from the shutter button. Then you're done.
If you for some reason want to exchange the functionality between the AF-ON and * buttons, you program each of them to do what you want it to do individually. There is no "swap" function between them. A better idea could be to have AF on AF-ON and AF with a pre-registered point on * button. If you still need AE-lock, you can assign that to the M-Fn button instead. Both the BG-E7 and WFT-E5 grips for the 7D supports both AF-ON and * buttons.