lovemyram4x4 wrote in post #17211336
I still don't get why a few that were posting int his thread earlier would have a problem with those shots and not understand why anyone want to take them if it's not of their own kids.
They never did explain it to my satisfaction, either. To try to understand, I have to speculate, so here are a couple of ideas off the top of my head.
1. For many people, capturing family memories is THE purpose of photography. They buy a camera when they have a baby, or they upgrade at that time. They don't empathize with people who make images for other reasons. It doesn't make sense to them that you'd want pictures of kids who aren't yours. They've heard about pedophiles' private use of pictures, though, and they think maybe that's what you're about. I think this last bit may be an easy mental jump for men in particular to make because they're familiar with a similar use of pictures of women.
2. In an indirect or symbolic way, photographing a person somewhat resembles predation. You select a target, you aim, you "shoot." The act can be construed as rude, almost as an assault, when the person isn't a knowing and willing participant. It has something in common with staring or pointing: you orient yourself toward the person and you direct intense attention at him or her. Staring, in fact, is considered rude when there's no prior relationship and no special circumstance such as watching a performer on stage or watching athletes in a game. Pointing is considered rude even when there is a prior relationship. Being stared at makes people nervous. I believe there's an evolutionary reason. Early humans lived near large, hungry carnivores. They needed to be alert to the constant threat of being eaten. Although photographers don't eat people, the physical situation of having something "looking" at you is enough like being stalked by a tiger that it can arouse a feeling that something bad is going to happen.