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The same sex wedding - How to say: No (if you do not want to accept the job)

 
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Nov 24, 2014 14:19 |  #1

Do you shoot the same sex wedding?
If no is the answer, how do you say no to the job (after you already know the wedding date and confirmed your availability before the meeting or before you find out that it is the same sex wedding)?
What do you do or say to not accepting the job and not getting sue?
Do you have a readily answer when facing the situation?

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I am not having a situation and asking all questions above trying to get out. I bought this up as I thought it is valuable discussion here to help WP from this family to prepare to not getting themselves in trouble (if he/she does not shoot the same sex wedding).

Please no discussion about WHY accepting the job and/or WHY NOT. Personally, I have not done one and would not say no if one coming along.
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Nov 24, 2014 14:33 |  #2

I guess you'd just say "Hey, I'm homophobic and choose to discriminate against gay people, so I'm not going to shoot your wedding."


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Nov 24, 2014 14:48 |  #3

I'm struggling to understand the point of your question. You say you would shoot a same sex ceremony, why are you asking for excuses for others?




  
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Nov 24, 2014 14:52 |  #4

BrandonSi wrote in post #17290789 (external link)
I guess you'd just say "Hey, I'm homophobic and choose to discriminate against gay people, so I'm not going to shoot your wedding."

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Nov 24, 2014 14:55 |  #5

Should POTN be helping to facilitate disciminatory language?

Once you get that point, a person should probably just get out of the business of providing equal service to all areas of the law abiding public. Go private, word of mouth only. No language is necessary.

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Nov 24, 2014 14:57 |  #6

This is simple as pie...... " We are booked" ... DONE end of story. Laws vary state to state. What you can say in Pa..you can NOT say in New Mexico.

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http://www.outsidetheb​eltway.com …e-service-to-gay-couples/ (external link)


Personally I think it is a bad business decision to deny anyone but that's just me :)


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Nov 24, 2014 15:02 |  #7

If they signed a contract.... this is trouble... If they did not, they can get out of it by saying they made a mistake on their calendar.

If they did sign a contract, there are ways around this shoot me a pm Kevin:)


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Nov 24, 2014 15:03 |  #8

scorpio_e wrote in post #17290844 (external link)
This is simple as pie...... " We are booked" ... DONE end of story. Laws vary state to state. What you can say in Pa..you can NOT say in New Mexico.

http://www.christianpo​st.com …ings-unsuccessful-127355/ (external link)

http://www.outsidetheb​eltway.com …e-service-to-gay-couples/ (external link)


Personally I think it is a bad business decision to deny anyone but that's just me :)

The original post says they've already confirmed their availabilty.




  
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Nov 24, 2014 15:11 |  #9

Great article kjonnn


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Nov 24, 2014 15:13 |  #10

kjonnnn wrote in post #17290861 (external link)
The original post says they've already confirmed their availabilty.

Available until someone else put down a deposit for the day. Deposit=booked.


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Nov 24, 2014 15:15 |  #11

Amazing, how not wanting to do something automatically brands one as homophobic. And even if that were the reason, homophobia isn't a crime.




  
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Nov 24, 2014 15:17 |  #12

HWolf wrote in post #17290880 (external link)
Amazing, how not wanting to do something automatically brands one as homophobic. And even if that were the reason, homophobia isn't a crime.

If homophobia (a word really used too much), leads to discrimination, a crime is committed.




  
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Nov 24, 2014 15:20 |  #13

HWolf wrote in post #17290880 (external link)
Amazing, how not wanting to do something automatically brands one as homophobic. And even if that were the reason, homophobia isn't a crime.

Homophobia may not be a crime but discriminating on the basis of it is against the law.


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Nov 24, 2014 15:21 |  #14

gonzogolf wrote in post #17290815 (external link)
I'm struggling to understand the point of your question. You say you would shoot a same sex ceremony, why are you asking for excuses for others?

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I thought we passed that point already regarding why and why not one should accept the same sex wedding or not. The subject was beating to dead and I have no intention to beat up the dead horse. I feel bad for those who didn't prepare to face the situation or have an answer readily and ended up with getting sue. I do not support their decision but who am I to against it. I just want to help and don't want to see another WP/POTNer getting sue.

I didn't ask those questions for myself, I have it as an open discussion for those who are not prepare to get ready to welcome the next coming season. :)


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Nov 24, 2014 15:24 |  #15

So you want to help prepare homophobes?




  
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