My only comment would be that your raw converter has no way of knowing what you think is "real" - whether you use custom DCPs or the ones provided by LR/ACR, it sounds as if your idea of what is real is less saturated than whatever the default settings in your converter provides as output. Maybe?
My advice would be to pick about 5 to 10 images that represent the majority of shooting conditions and subject matter, convert those raw files according to your "unreal" workflow and study each image carefully to come up with a list of what you find objectionable. Then, using the tools available in your raw converter, adjust or correct the faults until the images appear "real" - if you find that, across all of these images, a trend emerges in terms of the corrections you applied, make a preset in LR/ACR that contains these corrections and make that preset the default for imported images. It will hopefully provide a better starting point for your raw file conversion workflow.
Other than that, it is difficult to suggest anything because, like your raw converter, I do not know what you consider "real" and what your raw workflow currently consists of. Do you have a clear idea of what you want your images to look like? If you don't it is often difficult to achieve a final image, regardless of the application you use to make it.
kirk