1) You guys are saying opposite things.
YankeeMom wrote in post #17520393
except I thought he was saying that, since I can't compose properly for wide open (due to the fact that I have a lot of kids,) I should just
close down (assuming 4.0+) Not sure if it was a total insult or joke.

Nathan wrote in post #17520321
You may be right, but I thought he was trying to say: if you are a mother of 10 then you don't have time to compose and direct your subject against a good in-focus background, so go ahead and
blur out your background as much as possible.
2) Nathan is correct in this instance. This is what I was saying. He might have gotten confused and posted something else earlier. Kristin, you're incorrect. Ganginwood said you shoot wide open too much. He then said you can't compose properly because you have 11 children, so keep shooting wide open.
3) Ganginwood's terminology is confusing. He's saying shoot at 2.8 and below, where 2.8 = x, and aperture is f/x, meaning numbers x = 2.4, 2.0, 1.2. He doesn't eliminate the ambiguity: that f/2.8 = f times 1/2.8, therefore 1/1.2 is a larger fraction than 1/2.8. Instead, he's saying X is getting smaller. 2.8 and below to him means 2.8, 2.4, 2.0, 1.8. 1.6, 1.4, 1.2. This is the most frustrating inarticulateness I've seen in real life with amateur photographers and old and young bumpkins who won't use the right terminology. To be COMPLETELY CLEAR, you SHOULD say OPEN (WIDER APERTURE OPENING SIZE) or CLOSE (NARROWER OPENING SIZE). Kristin, you used the right terminology. Ganginwood didn't.
ganginwood wrote in post #17519412
Shooting everything wide open will get you mediocre results. They are all nice shots, don't get me wrong. But all of them at at 2.8 and wider. It's not like you were shooting into a construction site. ...
To be fair, if you're a mom to 11...just shoot at 2.8 and below. You don't have time for composition.
His last quote translates into:
You didn't have an ugly background. I want to see more background, because deep focus is so professional.
But hey, you're a busy mom with 11 kids. You don't have time to compose to make the most out of that background. So scratch that, you have a good excuse not to listen to my pro advice.
TLDR: I'd like to thank Ganginwood for the insult/generalization in the first place, the inaccurate language, and the subsequent misunderstanding and confusion. Like I said, it's a invalid argument, or at the very least, an inarticulate one.