backing up Amadauss, be sure to check with the hired hand before venturing off to do whatever. Your actions can seriously effect the outcome of their product (what the B&G paid for). May not be an issue if they did not hire anyone, but if they did...
What everyone else is saying is so true regarding your settings. The reason you hire a pro is this type of an event is so dynamic and you must be able to change your settings on the run in manual.
For you, (first check with hired hand for flash) set up in AV. For your ISO go with maybe 400 or so if outside and 800 if inside. Or use auto to get a base setting then adjust from there. If you want background go with a smaller aperture (higher number), and if your focusing on subjects up close a higher one (lower number). Basic basic basic. Be sure to adjust your exposure for your setting. This is easy in Av, just click the shutter button and roll the wheel. During the reception kick up your ISO. Dont bother with Tv.
Your not being paid, so whatever you come up with will be a bonus