Several reactions seem a bit over the top!
It sounds like
- the author of the book wants to use one of your photos as content to illustrate some place/concept mentioned in the editorial text.
- And he wants permission to do so, if the book is ever released in other languages and published in other countries.
- In having the photo within one chapter, it may need to be cropped to fit the page appropriately, and they need to rights to do so.
All quite reasonable, and not apparently a 'grab' -- with one exception...
- Author also wants to be able to use your photo as commercial material to publicize the book..."in advertising, publicity, and promotion"
...and that is ordinarily a usage for which a photographer is PAID some form of 'compensation'. You need to decide for yourself what your position is/will be, in this specific context!
Your photo would be part of the CONTENT of the book as an illustration in a chapter, as a result one might say that the 'promotion' of the book merely excerpts some of its own editorial content to promote the book, and your photo is not simply being used 'for commercial purposes' (advertising), so no fees are appropriate.
Asking for a pre-press review of the black and white, cropped version to be printed seems entirely reasonable thing to want for quality assurance. As tonal separations are often subtle compared to color separating objects, it is not unreasonable to want to see that some of the details are not lost in the conversion to B&W, after all.
In summary, this all seems to be kosher to me! (not an attorney).