There are a number of books available, although I've usually found that it takes several books to cover what I'm interested in at the time rather than the whole book covering everything. So I end up buying many books. Which is ok, because later on when I find aother lighting interest or a different situation comes up I need to read about, that is usually covered in one of my books.
There is one author that I've found that comes pretty close to covering it all in one book though. The author is J.J. Allen and I can't recommend his two books enough. The first one is probably a tad better than the second one, but they are both excellent. J.J. writes in a style that is very informative but doesn't lose you in techno-speak, nor talk to simple for those with some knowelege already. He gives good discriptions and examples that are on the same page so you don't have to keep flipping back and forth to view a diagram or example while reading about it. He's one of those rare authors that knows what he's talking about and how to say it. His web site is at: http://jjaflair.home.att.net/
His books are: "Posing and Lighting Techniques for Studio Portrait Photography" and "Lighting and Exposure Techniques for Outdoor and Location Portrait Photography". On the second one, there is another book out there of the same name, so if you get it, make sure it's by J.J. Allen.
Some other books that I have bought, liked and used are:
"Create Lighting Techniques for Studio Photographers" by Dave Montizambert.
"Master Lighting Guide" by Christopher Grey.
"Lighting for People Photography" by Stephen Crain.
"The Portrait - Professional Techniques and Practices in Portrait Photography" a Kodak book.
And though a bit more technical, still one that is worth having on the shelf, "Light Science & Magic" by Fil Hunter and Paul Fuqua.
"Still Life and Special Effects Photography - A guide to professional Lighting Techniques" by Roger Hicks and Frances Schultz.
"Digital Photography Expert - Light and Lighting" by Michael Freeman.
"Basic Studio Lighting" by Tony L. Corbell.
Another great source is http://www.lightingmagic.com/directry.htm
the web site for Scott Smith. He has some excellent sources on his web site, a Q&A section and some pretty good books as well.
I just bought a few new ones the other day that look pretty good. They are:
The Best of Photographic Lighting - Techniques and images for digital photographers by Bill Hurter.
Portrait Photography - Secrets of Posing & Lighting by Mark Cleghorn
Portrait Photographer's Handbook second edition by Bill Hurter
Digital Portrait Photography and Lighting by Catherin Jamieson and Sean McCormick.
This should be enough to get you started and is only a drop in the bucket of what's available out there. And you are right about asking others for recommendations. Not all books on lighting or photography are created equal. I've bought a few that had I been able to look at them before I bought them (I buy a lot on Amazon.com)I wouldn't have bought them.
I hope this helps.
Mike