Ethics and standards for photographing a family wedding

Spoke to my lawyer husband yesterday. He said no judge would take the other side. It was a verbal agreement with actual item for the trade made on your part. Either take the flash back or the girlfriend has to shoot for free. I'd take the flash back or make her pay for it. But if you were really trying to make nice, work it out. I don't know if I'd be very comfortable with this situation as is.

The flash is now used--can you use it yourself? If not, and you sell it, you won't get $300 for it. Ask her for either the money or the prints that were promised. And tell the family! Maybe it will be the pressure she needs to make things right. Get her to take the pix off her site by doing as others suggested--contacting EVERYONE in the pix and letting them know what's going on and having them tell her to take them down as well. Make sure you have backed up her site first, though. Also contact the ISP.

If need be, take it to small claims court--it's relatively cheap. And start writing down all events that have transpired or will transpire until this is resolved. Write down times, what happened, and what was the outcome. Keep any voice messages (mails), emails, or letters, etc.

I am NOT a lwayer and am NOT offering legal advice, just letting you know what I'd do.

PhotosGuy wrote in post #2280573
Besides what has already been said (Good stuff there), my thoughts: WAY too late to change the terms, it's been shot as a "Work-for-Hire" & paid for ($300). Tell her to read those laws, which leave her no (C)rights at all. And... My situation is my sister's partner, so your sister was acting as your "Agent", which is a whole 'nother can 'o worms legally & obligates both your sister & her partner if you threaten small claims court. You might ask if thier "Errors & Omissions" policy is up to date & see what the reaction to that question is?

I probably should have read this whole thread but this is right. Although there was nothing on paper, there is still a verbal agreement and it'll hold up. There is also in economics something we call consideration where you gave her something up front in consideration of having your prints.

Kick her ass or have an attorney phone her. Well...maybe just the attorney part.