Cosworth, I agree with YOUR WIFE's assessment!
If you want to give a try to relative brightness, do this....
Take a gray card and mount a telephoto lens on your tripod-mounted camera. Zoom in so that the gray card occupies 2/3 or more of the frame.
a. take a picture on Av mode with no flash at all
b. take a picture on Av mode with flash on, no FEC
c. take a picture on Av mode with FEC + 2/3 EV
d. take a picture with a digital P&S
See which one you like, as reproducing the gray card density the best. See which one your wife likes, as reproducing the gray card density the best. Compare each of those with what the dSLR does in Av mode with ambient light and no flash! Compare each of those with what the P&S does in Av mode with ambient light and no flash! Compare all of them with the gray card!

) When set at +2/3rd, I have only one occasion where results did not turn out satisfactory and that I feel was due to operator error - I set 1/200 M mode flash when I should have dragged the shutter to light the background better.

